If it is not within YOU - Where is LOVE?

This has been an intriguing question for me, and came to me just out of the blue one day. I didn't know why at first, and then I realized. It was because I was searching for love outside of myself in other people, and I had no business doing so before I discovered it within me!


Have you found yourself doing this? Looking to confirm whether or 'how much' the other people in your life love you? Or seeking to attract 'new love' into your life in the form of intimate relationships?

There's nothing wrong about wanting to evaluate our existing relationships with family, friends and partners. And of course it's totally acceptable to want a partner to share your life. So what do these questions mean?

Well, if you do not have it within you to give, you cannot expect it from others!

Have you evaluated your own feelings of love for YOU? There is one sure fire way of understanding whether you love YOU - or not - by taking a look at your lifestyle and at the things you say and do.

Are you happy with you? Do you like or love your own company? Can you be happy just spending the day on your own, with nothing to distract you? This means no tv, no phone calls, no interaction with others at all! Some people have told me they 'hate' to be alone! Gosh, that in itself is a strong statement, without thinking that they could possibly even consider the prospect that they are 'alone!' There are millions of people on the other side of the front door - so why could anyone feel 'alone'?

Perhaps because some people simply shut others out, feeling that they are not lovable, so why bother? Oh, I know what this one feels like - yes, I have felt this way before and so I can identify with those who may feel unloved. Did you know, that this feeling and therefore this action is primarily caused by not looking within to discover where we CAN be loved and lovable?! We all have magnificence and we can all find it.

If you are thinking "How?" right now, then this is the only barrier to you finding all the love you could ever want! I really mean this - it IS there waiting for you to acknowledge it!

The 'HOW?' is simple and yet I know the process is not always easy - the barriers that have been erected, the self-imposed wall around your heart, the low self-esteem that has invaded your body, are all layers of doubt that really do need attention. What action could you begin to take? Just peel those layers off, gently and with patience. They weren't built overnight, so may not fall overnight.

When can you start? RIGHT NOW!

Simply.....Ask yourself these questions, and write down the answers, so you can read them back to yourself.....

What is LOVE?

When in my life have I felt LOVE?

What does LOVE feel like?

What was I doing when I felt LOVE?

For whom have I felt LOVE?

What does LOVE look like?

Where can I find signs of LOVE in my home?

What about my life can I feel GRATEFUL for?

What about my life can I feel HAPPY about?

With the answers to these questions, can you now please look at yourself in the mirror and say;

I know what love feels like and because I have experienced it, I can always remember how I felt when there was love around, and recreate that feeling.

I need never feel alone, because my heart can fill with love each time I put my arms around my body and give myself a hug.

When I love me, my own world is complete, so others are free to join me and share my love.

When my heart fills with love, my whole face changes and attracts even more love - from others.

By being the loving person I know I am, I will attract other loving people into my life.

You can also add anything else you like - just look into the mirror and say loving things to yourself and watch how you grow and glow with happiness. When you concentrate on LOVE and focus your ATTENTION and your words on this feeling, you are 'intent' on building it within you.

Your INTENTION therefore becomes the process you intend to adopt to secure happiness in your life.

I take it that your search for love has been one of your 'ingredients' for having a happy life?!!

Thank you for taking part in your life by DOING this task. It is important to our higher self that we take action when each opportunity arises, and place our attention on growth, if we are to enjoy our journey, and discover our purpose and our passions. There is much to learn and much to experience for a fulfilling life to be ours.

If I haven't covered your challenge here, please do feel free to get in touch or leave a comment below. Whilst I know that the world is in need of more love, I do not know everyone's challenge. If you let me know your own challenge, I will be happy to provide some food for thought.

Love always, and thank you for visiting. Please come back again.

YOU’VE GOT TO RUN

Created alone first to run

Made of one to be different

But many had killed their fun

Waiting for life giving affluence

The battle line is drawn

The enemy stands at bay

Only the exceptional can burn

For idle hearts must be slayed

You are called for a purpose

And the fulfillment calls on you

You are made uniquely to propose

A cause you must run and boast

You’ve got to take that step

Though you see not that victory

Despair not in what’s kept

Making it is daring the odds

Salau O John©

JUST OBEY NOW

You have seen the vision and purpose

But it stands insignificant to sprout

You know the cause and your suppose

But your heart fears jumping out

You have heard the call to go

Yet, finance breaks your heart

You have heeded the little mold

But you call on how possible

Willingness and obedience only you need

But one is missing for fear

And you hoped in procrastination daily

While your day’s runs in tears

Nothing is asked by the giver

But your actions in that call

Looking may betray your banner

But what’s seen changes with time

Salau O John©