GOT A QUESTION FOR YOU...

Another day to ask you something here,

Got a question for you ...

How do you speak positively about EVERYTHING when things just aren't going so well at the moment?

 (And you DEFINITELY want to do that ... or keep getting more "not so good!")

Naturally, that's a question that comes up over and over in the minds of all creative people whom I have met, those who want to be positive AND truthful.

Here's a recent Q&A between two people I overheard

Question
"My understanding is that we should only talk and think about a situation in terms of ... how we want it to be, not about how it is.

"This means we should avoid complaining about what we don't like about a situation and focus on our CMI ["clear mental image" of what's desired].

   "Thing is, if we are currently experiencing a situation which is difficult, how can we say and think it is easy or positive without lying?


"I tend to catch myself thinking about how bad a situation is (analyzing it). Then I correct myself and refocus on the end result goal. The current reality is however pretty bad, so it's hard to ignore it. This is especially hard when interacting with the other people involved.

I remember being specifically instructs to only talk in the most positive terms about the situation.

"So if I'm stuck and someone asks, what should I say? That I am stuck or that it's ok?

"If I am talking to someone about a problem, should I say it is a problem or say it's all going to be all right?

"Because I feel like a bad salesman when I smile and am positive about something that is going badly wrong. And I feel that if people knew the truth from my perspective they would see me as a liar."

Answer
"Here's something that has helped me:

If someone asks you about a situation that is not going particularly well, instead of saying, "Things aren't so good," you can say...

'Things are going well! I'm currently working on (state your challenge/problem), and as a matter of fact, I could use your help!

"Human nature being what it is, people are more inclined to support people/things that are succeeding rather than things that are not. By using the above method, not only do you put your situation in a positive light, you also get buy-in and support from others! Hope this helps!"

That's all for today, my friend, but I've got a special little Friendly Update to send you in a day or two with a fantastic offer I've been working on telling you about. Just waiting for the right time because I want you to have time to read the post.

See you next time!

KEEP THAT PEACE

Happiness will wage the heart in success

The mouth will travel to broad subject

While the enemy stands idle in wickedness

Many do not understand failed future

Success calls on all to understanding

What should have been should have been

But open throat was that unrelenting

And not all that’s seen wants future

All are made in secret to tray

Half done is better before open trench

Life is but secretive to no delay

And only wisdom helps in fruition

Hold your peace till you succeed

Men waylays the plan they see

Stand aside the enemy will plead

But let not the mouth open undone

Salau O John©2010

 

NOT ME

My heart cries out for time

But the world calls me lazy

I tray that I know from prime

Yet they say I’m truly crazy

I know what I want but none

Yet I’m said to be blind

Why do men hate uncommon men?

I was created to be in line

I know I am not crazy

For like men I work too

I know I am not lazy

Better than you I’m tooled

The world stands afraid of me

Prayers they lay their panting

I understand but I’m free

Who can but please men?

Salau O John©2010

 

SOMETHING FROM THE PAST (LIFE CAN BE HARD - DON'T GIVE UP!

Just a quick note from the past.

It's hard to contend with life when all things seems as though you are alone in the world and you have so much gifts entrusted within. You hope and pray daily for help and change but nothing seems to work.

Today I was looking into one of my old diaries when I saw this letter I had written a long while ago, during the times when the ups were up and the downs were truly down.

I told myself, "there's a lesson or two here for someone, don't just throw it away, share it".

I just hope I am right out here.

So friends enjoy!

And don't give up, the storms can't take you far, it's for your greatness; life is merely just a lesson!

 LIFE CAN BE HARD - DON'T GIVE UP!

TO WHOM IT MAY CONCERN

Hello to the world,

I feel my world is in a zest, I just could not understand what is wrong with me. Maybe I miss love, maybe my isolation. I pondered and wandered in my heart, mind for the fact of what is wrong with me. I have lost some part of me. Where is love; where is understanding; where do I stand? I can’t cry because I know I don’t belong here, I truly don’t belong where I stand for now. I have helped, hoped and seen many things, read many too; but this; it’s like dying to live. I love to sing, teach, write and help others out, but none of these moves me anymore, even the presence of my creator – my most cherished place in time! My heart is fretting, my life is dying – no friends no love to cope me out. I live in my own world, (being born and lived with many brothers and sisters) praying for someone who understands my plight.

Knowledge is lost within me, understanding fights each other, and wisdom prays to be birthed. I am not myself and the world feels to me like it as come to an idle state. I know my dreams, my goals, what I can do, but the whether it’s not favorable at all. Who believes in me, who understands me, but myself?  Life is so cruel and funny even when you lay your joys and hopes with believes in God!

I lace around in my mind, sitting, asking myself, truly, what is life all about? The answer probes me to cry out and bile.

I know what I want, what I want to do. I have walked in it before and was beyond happiness. Is this how it feels for those who have hanged or killed themselves in the past before they do? No love, no joy, no family, no friends, no dreams being fulfilled. They lose hope, lose their minds for living and gave up on the grievousness of man’s toils and lost dreams with love; it’s dangerous to be like this!

Man, life is not easy when you sit, watching the hands of the clock moving against you and your dreams.

I have loved making research, sharing my heart through writings, teaching, poetry and song lyrics, with speaking. I have burn out in many ways for others and I’ve been sidetracked in many ways, yet I am a forgiving furlong person. I don’t count hurts and I’ve been used, abused for becoming what God made me to be. What can I do? I feel like my life is in obscure darkness awaiting liberation through love from the world. The worse of all; I can’t feed my pocket aright, home and outside bade me let go. Where to go, I know; but are these things really possible in life? I have seen it possible, believed in it, accepted it, walked in it, but now I don’t know anymore.

The world (it’s hard to contend with), God, Jesus, Holy Spirit; I need help!

I can remember the year this was written, it's been a while truly but I thank God that this written piece helped me in a lot of ways as it was my best friend those days when nothing seems possible and I could not confide in anyone but prayers and God with my writings; Now I read them and laugh.

With this I believe and know, 'if I can make it out of everything I have passed and gone through, then it's easy for anyone and everyone to overcome their shadows (unseen, unknown future) in life.

All you need to do is be focused and understand that, " after the night comes the morning, after the storms of life comes the coolness of days, time, peace and love.

Peace to you my friends,

Salau O John (O.O.J)

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MY TIME TODAY

A life of preparation

A life of anticipation

Man must do it alright

Even when darkness is bright

Let the sun shine

Let the light shine

Soon everything will come

If only unrelenting you burn

Let the world break you

Let the enemies laugh you

All is but a season and time

If by standing you align

Troubles may brew and stare

Trials may come and bar

All is made growing to stand

If for now you are sound

Salau O John©2010

LET IT GO

Test the waters, test the roads

Let it go, leave it alone

That which belongs will hold

That which is not will be blown

Love is love if it stays

Though the heart may linger staying

Life must go on nothing swayed

Even when in heart life is praying

Let it move throw it away

Many days will roll but wait

Let men hurt you, be slayed

Many will party end your bait

Years will come to yours alive

Casting bread on the waters pay

Losing is gaining better in brief

Let go let God, nothing dismay

Salau O John©2010

Who U Gonna Call? God!

Hey,

I guess sometimes we all just need to find answers to our lives and the most grueling of life's troubles is solving problems and moving along with its solutions.

When we have a problem the first person we turn to is ourselves. We face up to the issues and try to find a solution. For the most, this is normally sufficient and we create independence by sorting out our own problems. It also helps in building self confidence and self esteem.

If a solution doesn't come forth through our own efforts then we normally turn to friends, family or a professional; an expert in the field in which our problem lies. Two heads are better than one so the saying goes, and particular with regards to the expert, their wealth of experience will usually guide us in the direction we need to go.

There are times though when despite our best efforts, despite the efforts of others, an answer to our problem doesn't seem to be readily available. For every problem there is a solution but when it just doesn't seem obvious "who are we gonna call?"

God.

When the going gets tough, the tough get going. But when we have a deep rooted faith, God becomes our strength. We can face up to any challenge if we believe and trust that God will see us through.

So in the event of a crisis we have three levels at which we operate.

1. We look for the answers ourselves. We do a bit of research and apply the grey matter a little bit harder and if that fails we revert to plan 2.
2. We ask somebody. Hopefully there is an answer out there amongst the people we know.
3. Plan 3 is to ask God. By having faith, asking God for his help and being patient, the answer will come.

So what happens to those non-believers? What do they do when they get to level 3. Emotions normally take over. Panic and quite often depression, and when anybody gets to this state it can be a downward spiral. When negative emotions cloud thinking the problem becomes the sole focus of attention, blanketing any thoughts of a solution.

I once had a boss who would say to me "don't bring me problems, bring me solutions". Easier to do when God walks by our side and we can think positive thoughts. Nowhere near so easy when negative thoughts run through the mind.

When we have the joy of knowing Gods love, when we have absolute faith in God helping us to find the answers, we think positively and the solutions surely emerge.

Perhaps I should have added another level between 2 and 3. "If all else fails read the instructions". The bible.

How fantastic is that?

NO BAD SEED

Nothing is ever lost to givers

The world may derail the mind

Back to back we are learners

But the heart men must find

The whether is not favorable

Looking only derail the possible

And starting the seed breaks heart

Yet only those in, have the parts

You were made a seed but sow

Heart broken the light may blow

You are a seed giving made high

And dying comes first that light

A gift came to earth alive

But in resurrection death calls first

Dead or alive men must live

You are high and on that list

Salau O John©