As the day rolls on, let's talk about anger and solving its issue today.
Nearly anyone and everyone – people of all ages worldwide – is prone to displays of anger. The degree of frequency and level of intensity of the emotion are what vary most and most often result in how well a person
handles the anger and whether there are positive or negative results.
A key to those who successfully manage anger is gaining control. And in order to gain control over the emotion, it helps to first take a look at anger itself, what it is and how to deal with it effectively.
Anger is an emotion. It can be triggered by a variety of things, issues, people, places, etc. Some of the top triggers are jealousy, confrontations, failure, greed, fear, low self-esteem, assertiveness, feeling threatened and pain.
When a person gets angry, the negative emotion can actually harm the person’s physical and emotional well-being. The heart rate increases, stress levels rise, and often a fight or flight reaction is the immediate response, neither one always presenting a healthy alternative.
What counters anger best is to be prepared in advance to learn major triggers, how to tell when they are about to happen, when possible, so as to avoid them, plus a variety of coping skills in order to deal with what is necessary. To help, keep a private journal to note any anger triggers, ways to possibly avoid confrontations down the road and possible coping techniques to try. You can use the following triggers, coping techniques and helpful tips as a good starting point.
Trips Your Trigger
When you’re calm, make a list of things, people, places, events, etc. that tend to trip your trigger:
1. Calling businesses and getting automated menus to choose form that run you in circles, accomplishing nothing productive.
2. Handling angry customer service calls
3. Going to visit in-laws
4. Heavy traffic during rush hour
5. Loosing with my Mutual Funds account in the stock market
Anger Aids
List ways to deal with anger when you’re have a positive frame of mind and are in a good mood, to spark better creativity:
1. Cool off with ice cream – As simplistic as this sounds, something cool and soothing can often help take the heat off the moment and begin cooling the entire body down.
2. Take a hike or walk – Taking a step back, away from it all, can do wonders to give you a more world-view of the situation. Being in the center of issues can make them seem larger than they really are,
making the proverbial mountains out of molehills.
3. Dance – Let it all out via your own expression. Dance to the beat of the music of your choice.
4. Write it out - Journal and create a column of ‘lemons’ along with another column alongside for solutions or ‘lemonade.’
5. Avoid / alter path of destruction in advance – Take a different route during rush hour or alter your schedule.
By planning, you can prepare yourself in advance. Plan and conquer, and keep at the process on a regular basis.
KEEP THINKING
Deeper than life stronger than death
Strange is the heart that can read
Harmonies of life oneness of birth
The mind is an ocean of thought
Concentrating the heart waiting for time
Building the life creating the future
Thoughts make that to be primed
The mind is an ocean of thought
Becoming great releasing the actuality
All that will be thought will be
Making the man making the faculty
A vision through thought must be
Keep thinking the straight course
Hiding the mind forwarding the vision
Hearing the guilt’s breaking the curse
A mission thought must be
Salau O John©2010
JUST YOUR INSIDE
What is professed what is seen?
Life and the difference faces tray
We say but the heart is gleaned
Who understand that men lay?
The inner man against the outer man
A cry within and smiles without
Against sin cried but closet manned
What is portrayed what is left out?
The inside trays the home call
A little leaven kills the whole
How can time change for all?
The day came for the beginning soul
Just the inside trays the life
For practice makes perfect all
One day the hidden will alight
For nothing change but practice calls
Salau O John©2010
Not Yours
The life that be, a borrowed life
The time that taken a given one
Yet you’re promised the world no lies
And forget all things do long
The days and ways do ply
But runs no end it’s own
It’s mans mistakes flying by
For tomorrow tows in line alone
Except the Lord should have been said
But no give was called upon
From foundation you came, the last felt
Yet your heart self do open
I call to order the days that dote
But will you listen, time tolls
The seeds do die before growth
So open thou eyes the days die
Salau O John©2010
Till next time.
Enjoy your time out there,
Salau John (O.O.John)
aka
T1
