Top 10 signs that its time to leave a relationship

Hello there friend,


Today I had no intention of writing anything on this blog but due to some questions received from one of my friends and my experiences in relationship with all the break-ups I had been through, I know where the shoe pinches more than I can say. 

I just feel like helping someone out with this, believing my service to the world at large is being done in a way for all and sundry.

I would like you to enjoy the facts as I lay it out in helping you on the Top 10 signs to know when to pack-up that relationship of yours.

Enjoy!

Usually your gut instinct will be the first sign that things are not going well in your relationship, you will feel that something is just not right, that something has changed and it is not for the better. Perhaps these feelings will begin to show as anger and coldness where as before you felt kindness and warmth with your partner, these could be the first signs that something is amiss and the relationship is beginning to fail or it could be nothing more than just a stage in your relationship through which you will pass.

So how can you tell which it is? There are other signs that could give you a clue as to if the relationship is doomed or if you will survive, some of the most common signs include:

1. An increase in arguing

If before you agreed on almost anything but now you are constantly disagreeing and arguing then this could be a sign that things are taking a turn for the worse in your relationship. This could be more so if your partner is now forever finding faults and bickering about the smallest of things and disagreeing purely for no good reason.

2. A decrease in passion

If you previously enjoyed a good sex life with your partner and this drops off for no apparent reason then this could be a sign something is not right, while some waning is only natural over a period of time when certain circumstances interfere, if your partner resists your advances continually over a period of time then this could be a warning sign.

3. Avoiding one another

Of course you cant always be together but if you were close before and spent a lot of time in each others company talking, holding hands or cuddling and this begins to drop off to the extent where you are now avoiding each other this is a big sign that you are no longer enjoying each others company and a warning sign of impending doom.

4. Jealously

If your partner suddenly starts flirting with the clear intention of making you jealous then this should be regarded as a warning sign, your partner could be feeling insecure and is looking for more attention or it could be a sign that they are genuinely trying to attract someone new and is losing affection for you.

5. Interference from family members

If your partner begins to use family members such as children against you then this could spell danger in a relationship, bringing family members into it can cause nothing but disharmony and will drive a wedge between any relationships.

6. Growing dependency

If your partner suddenly shows a growing dependency on you then this could be a problem, it could mean that they realize something is wrong between the two of you and are clutching to you.

7. Anxiety or depression

If your partner is suddenly anxious or gets depressed then this could spell trouble, it could mean that they have unresolved issues and unless there is clear reason as to why it could mean your relationship is the main problem.

8. Expecting change

If your partner suddenly wants you to change then this could be a sign something is amiss, they could be indicating that they aren’t happy with the way things are and that things are going downhill.

9. Spending more time at work

If your partner suddenly starts spending more time at work or out with friends than they are with you then this is a big sign that something is wrong.

10. Being secretive

If your partner starts becoming secretive then this is a warning sign, if they tend to hide things from you such as mobile phones, letters or start spending a lot of time online then they could have found a new love in their life.

SAYING GOODBYE

You’re making me say goodbye

No matter how hard I try

I searched my heart for your hurts

But nothing I could find to but

You should have told me the truth

We had no plan of getting loot

I truly love you till the end

But you had other planned friends

I am saying what was not intended

The journey was truly fine and bonded

I’m gonna miss you but a while

Please understand I call on another style

You’re making me say goodbye

This is not another one cry

I will always remember the days

You were in the beginning, my say

Salau O John©2010

GETTING OVER YOU

You should only have told me

Then I would have gotten over you

Someone else was setting you free

My love I would have kept away

I had believed in you and I

But you had another mind apart

You should have told me, no cry

How I try to cope my days

Trying to say the goodbye hurts

But I’ll be fine, believing my plight

You should have been fair in lots

Only in eyes were fair alive

I will be over you I know

Then the world will ask you

I will be far I truly flow

And healing for another I’ll be

Salau O John©2010

To your success,

Olanrewaju John (Salau O)

aka

T1

Poet, Author, Speaker & Publisher

Don’t Settle for Mediocrity

Hello friend,

Today with all the struggling going on here and there and things are looking difficult as if that dream of yours will not come true I want to boost your mindset and help you refocus your attention on the long term goal of every hard-work you may have put yourself into that's not working right.

I want you to know that in time all things do truly work together for good; it's merely a lesson you are going through for now.

Just do yourself a favor, don't settle for less that who you are and what you really want to achieve. Just enjoy today's blog and learn what you know will be needed for you here today.

Don’t Settle for Less/Mediocrity
True success in life can only come by not settling for mediocrity, we should always strive to achieve and get the most out of life that we possibly can, it is only when we push ourselves and give it all we’ve got can we then give ourselves a pat on the back for a job well done. Success in life depends on self-discipline and not giving in at the first hurdle you come across or going into a project only half heartedly, by pushing yourself that little bit further you will be surprised at what you are capable of achieving, this is what separates the winners from the losers or the successful from the unsuccessful.

All people say that they want to succeed in life at whatever they do but very few are willing to actually push themselves a little bit further in order to achieve their goals, and this is why some of us succeed in life and others fail.

How well you succeed is all about how bad you want the success, what it means to you, are you willing to succeed a little or are you willing to go the whole way and beyond to achieve a higher status and be outstanding?

We all start out with the best of intentions when racing towards the goals we have set, we shoot out of the starting gate and run down the straight lane but many of us fall back at the first hurdle, we don’t push, we run out of steam when the going gets tough and don’t pause to catch our second wind but come to a halt and give up, or stumble on half halfheartedly and cross the line in second or third place at best.

Those who do have the winning streak in them, who know that with a little extra push and a pause to catch their breath and then a final sprint down the home straight and past the winning post a head in front of their competitors are the ones that end up with the glory and true success in life.

Of course all those who are successful don’t just rely on pushing themselves, all winners have a strategy and are willing to be flexible on their way to success because life has a way of throwing many different spanners into the works along the way. We have to be able to adapt to these unexpected happenings when they occur and not get bogged down, we have to take them in our stride, skip around them and continue in the race.

Never settle for anything less than giving it your all!

Here are some tips to help you remember never to settle for anything but your best no matter what the project is:
1. It doesn’t matter how big or small the project put your all into getting it completed.
2. If you think you have given it your best shot, pause and ask yourself “could I improve.”
3 Plan our your project but always be willing to make changes and work your way around the unexpected.
4. It’s ok to pause but get back into the race and carry on until you pass the winning post.

To your success,

LET’S GO BACK

The foundation was rightly laid

But in building, cements, not enough

The beginning was correctly paved

But in the middle we wobbled

Now prayers are calling order

And time is pursuing unseen faces

While the future waits on plans alive

And hard-work takes tolls in places

The foundation is intact, let’s renovate

Many more things missing can be added

But only with the builders to collaborate

Bringing back the missing links of beginning

It should have been to the end

But many things stole time away

And uncompleted brings many bends

Let’s go back to the beginning again

Salau O John©2010

MY VERBATIM TRUTH

I have sailed the world my heart

Love I search daily in my path

I have called upon my vision

But no comfort was the consolation

I thought I’ve found me true love

But leadership breaks the resolve

Surely there’s a perfect for me

I open my heart, eyes to be free

I give my advice in these lines

Love that you can to be fine

I sail my self-control to you

Faces are not character due

Though you may found true love

Your vision, purpose must to revolve

Though you may know true paths

Understanding the fulfillment of your heart

Salau O John©2010

Salau O John (O.O.J)
aka T1