Dealing with problem solving

A lovely day to you out there today,

Let's blog today on problems of our lives and how to put an end to them. This I hope will be of help in a way as I have seen it in my life.

Truly we all come across problems that affect our life and we have to deal with them. However, its how we deal with them that can make all the difference.

Problems can occur in life through mistakes that we make ourselves or through unforeseen circumstances beyond our control, whichever way they cross our path we should deal with them in the same levelheaded way.

Stay in control
There are basic ways in which we can help ourselves overcome problems easier when life throws them our way but the most important of them is to remain in control of your thoughts and feelings. Remember that worrying and getting upset about any situation wont change the situation in any way, it won’t make it go away by magic. Try to think of problems as challenges that arise, tests that are put in our path to see how we deal with them and overcome them.

It is all about how we deal with problems emotionally that matter, our emotional state can take us through our problems if we allow it to. If you are prone to worrying when problems arise and allow depression to set in, you still have to get through the tough times, only they will be so much harder to get through.

The first thing you have to understand is that you don’t have to understand the cause of the problem in order to solve it and get past it. If only I knew why? Is the first question that many of us ask when faced with difficulty, but knowing why doesn’t change anything. The solution to the problem lies ahead not behind and this is the way you should be looking, don’t spend energy trying to figure why, spend it focusing on looking for the solution.

Don’t spend anymore than 20% of your time on focusing on the problem and wondering why; do spend 80% on figuring out a solution to the problem. The only question you need to ask yourself is “what am I going to do about it?”

When problems get you down
If problems are getting you down remember that everyday is a new day, while life seems to be throwing many problems your way right now it doesn’t mean it will tomorrow. Leave the past where it belongs and only concentrate on the future and it getting brighter day-by-day.

To lift yourself up out of the blues ask yourself “what is happening in my life right now that I have to be grateful for?” if you sit down and think deeply about this, no matter how many problems you seem to have right now there is always something which you should be grateful for.

So dealing with solving problems is all about how you look at them, face them head on and don’t shrink from them in despair. Focus on obtaining a solution for solving the problem and then go for it full steam ahead until you have dealt with it and got through it.

NEVER GONNA GIVE IN

The pressure breaks on both sides

The turning point is cast out

So adamant stands the slide

Who can change this trend?

Everything sounds odd and outdated

Even friends collide my time alive

I am pursued and daily quoted

Yet never gonna give in today

I will the world a seeing

For many had gone through these

A cry for nothing but the best

Just gonna be quiet and stand

My days are coming back

To become and stand in line

Many like me are there

These days was giving in signs

Salau O John©2010

I WILL

I know I will, one day

I will become my dreams

I know I will someday

I will become my vision

I care not what the world says

I care not for lives storms

For I know I will soon sail

And all eyes will see soon

I know I will this day

I know I will throw grains

My love will find me soon

And my aim will become true

I will become my hope

I will walk in my supposed

Though the world can’t cope

I will become my proposed

Olanrewaju O John©2010

LOVING THE BALL

Many times we’re falling

Apart from childish fallout

Life is all about falling to rising

Though not all can love tryouts

Many days we’ve all failed

Apart from failing in schools

Love is risky all do bailed

Though not all can be that tooled

Many assumptions had made lost

Apart from mischievous advices on taken

Life offers free-bad course on toast

Though understanding derail the taking

Loving the life and men is odd

Apart from pleasing the world balled

Life and love will call man’s sword

Though those succeeding will ball

Salau O John©2010

KEEP THAT PEACE

Happiness will wage the heart in success

The mouth will travel to broad subject

While the enemy stands idle in wickedness

Many do not understand failed future

Success calls on all to understanding

What should have been should have been

But open throat was that unrelenting

And not all that’s seen wants future

All are made in secret to tray

Half done is better before open trench

Life is but secretive to no delay

And only wisdom helps in fruition

Hold your peace till you succeed

Men waylays the plan they see

Stand aside the enemy will plead

But let not the mouth open undone

Salau O John©2010

To your success,

Salau John
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Dealing with Disappointment

Hello to you today,

After some silence  out here for the bliss of life, learning and business I am here again with something from what I've learnt. 

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No matter how hard we try and how positive we try to remain about situations, we all end up having to deal with disappointments sometime during our life. We plan, we set goals in order to succeed in life but invariably, even though we give it our best shot, things don’t turn out as expected and disappointment sets in. Disappointment in itself is not particularly a bad thing; its how we choose to deal with it that can make a difference. If we simply choose to accept the failure and allow the disappointment to wash over us and quickly go away we don’t suffer adverse consequences, it is only when we allow the disappointment to linger and we dote on it that negativity and bad feelings can stay with us.

Some disappointment in life can be good for us because it allows us to grow and develop and practice thinking positively, going through disappointment and coming out the other side still wearing a smile makes us realize that no matter what life throws at us we can overcome it. Here are some tips to help you deal with and overcome disappointment when it rears its head.

1. Realize that grief, stress, anxiety, fear, pain and suffering are just a natural part of life that we have to go through, it’s how we deal with it and come out the other side that matters.

2. If family members or loved ones are causing you disappointments remember that no one is invulnerable, you cannot always live up to your expectations or yourself so how can you expect others to be perfect.

3. When faced with disappointment instead of looking at it as though it is a bad thing, welcome it and think of it as a test or challenge.

4. When things go wrong analyze the situation, see what you can learn from it and then let it go.
5. If you are constantly running into a brick wall when trying to reach long term goals, remember there cannot be failure unless you give up, so keep trying until you get there.

6. If you run into a dead end turn around and go another way, by staying flexible you are able to obtain your goal any way you can.

7. Don’t except anything more from life than what you are willing to put in, if you don’t expect anything more, you won’t be disappointed.

8. If you are having a particularly bad time overcoming disappointment it can help to talk about it, by talking about it and letting it out you realize that you are not alone when it comes to suffering disappointment.

9. Patience can really be a blessing when it comes to dealing with disappointment, just simply let the feelings pass over you and disappear and get back on the right track.

10. Don’t be conned by foolish and unreasonable expectations about life, if you are constantly looking for perfection then you will be disappointed for sure.

BREAKING THE HEART

You have been true before now

As men part their promises goodbye

Love came and slaps you somehow

You put all in the closet now

As days rolls by ends cry you

Like the mad man roam the street

Nothing breeds good thoughts due

Oppositions understands not your fret

Will love ever come back home?

Will acceptance ever be welcome?

The heart is on a voyage alone

Who can tell it back to tray?

Breaking the heart is a seed

It grows to dabble other things

But for time it breeds and bleed

Mending wall is focus and forgiveness

Olanrewaju O John©2010

TAKING IT ALL BACK

Sometimes in selfishness we all go

Going the way of men's words

We kill the love, break the flow

For action speaks louder than hearts

The gifts of love stand to heal

But two opposing forces derail foundation

Men and ego nothing makes feel

For fear of time all things collide

It was professed for a future coming

The heart sails on the voyage alive

But soon the outer voice kills reigning

For two masters breaks the ship

The world will moot no matter what

But only two hearts lays their plan

Taking back all gifts is wrong advice

But love breaks the aftermath alive

Salau O John©2010

 

SAYING GOODBYE

You’re making me say goodbye

No matter how hard I try

I searched my heart for your hurts

But nothing I could find to but

You should have told me the truth

We had no plan of getting loot

I truly love you till the end

But you had other planned friends

I am saying what was not intended

The journey was truly fine and bonded

I’m gonna miss you but a while

Please understand I call on another style

You’re making me say goodbye

This is not another one cry

I will always remember the days

You were in the beginning, my say

Salau O John©2010

KEEP THINKING

Deeper than life stronger than death

Strange is the heart that can read

Harmonies of life oneness of birth

The mind is an ocean of thought

Concentrating the heart waiting for time

Building the life creating the future

Thoughts make that to be primed

The mind is an ocean of thought

Becoming great releasing the actuality

All that will be thought will be

Making the man making the faculty

A vision through thought must be

Keep thinking the straight course

Hiding the mind forwarding the vision

Hearing the guilt’s breaking the curse

A mission thought must be

Olanrewaju O John©2010

To your success,

Olanrewaju O John (Salau)