Just remembering the issues we mostly have in our normal everyday discussions with one another, how we most times just can't wait to get our facts straightened out, jumping into conclusions and creating issues out little verbal words that can be settled with a little patience.
I believe we all need time and understanding in this issue of communication and having an effective, happy brain-word storming right.
The ability to be able to communicate well is essential in all walks of life if we are to succeed and accomplish the goals we set out for ourselves. The key to any successful relationship is having the ability to communicate and this applies equally to personal relationships as well as building interpersonal relationships within the workplace. Here are ten tips for developing good communication skills that you can use to build upon.
1. Always let the person who is talking finish what they are saying before you speak, if you speak before they have had their say then you could miss a valuable point, if you break into their conversation it also shows
that you think what you have to say matters more than what they do and is extremely bad manners.
2. Listen intently to what the other person is saying to you, if all you are doing is thinking of how you are going to reply to the person then your full attention isn’t focused on what they are saying and you could miss
something important.
3. Always stay focused on the present and never bring up past issues, however related it may seem. This only cloud the present issues and can make the conversation difficult and even more confusing.
4. Really listen to what the other is saying to you, it is so easy to drift away with thoughts of your own especially if you don’t agree with what the person is saying to you, try not to get defensive and don’t interrupt
them before they have made their point.
5. Instead of trying to win an argument or conflict try to reason and find a solution that is agreeable to both parties, this is a much more effective way to communicate than trying to battle it out just for the sake of
winning, this way no one is the loser.
6. Take a break if you cannot come to a reasonable agreement in a conversation when at odds, taking a break will allow you to cool down and gather your thoughts before communicating again.
7. Try to see the others point of view and don’t just stick with what you have in mind, talk over the ins and outs and explain simply and fully why you don’t think their idea is a good one while making suggestions of your own, but don’t be too quick to dismiss the others idea until you have the full picture.
8. Even if you don’t like what other person is saying try to be respectful of their opinion and do listen to what they have to say even if you don’t necessarily agree with them.
9. Don’t blow things out of proportion while conversing, if possible avoid starting sentences with “you always” or “you never”, always think about what you are saying and make sure that what you are saying is true, blowing things out of proportion, blaming and bringing up the past only creates more negativity.
10. Don’t always put all the blame on others, sometimes we handle conflicts by blaming things entirely on others and criticizing; try to analyze the situation objectively to find a solution.
HIS HE LISTENING
So many times we’ve all prayed
Waiting for an answer in halls
Like Jesus in Gethsemane no answer
We see life and many things ball
We are all same in this journey
But time holds behind the scene
And without patience we frolic
Scared of all that’s seen
Quietness parades our sights
And we hoped in answers boldness
Even the world frustrates our reckoning
We are men of great wilderness
He is listening for no answer
The command stands that He gave
But all men wait for another
Only obeying that known is safe
Salau O John©2010
QUESTION OR QUESTION
Life and men like solders
To command respect or demand it
The rich is respected even covered
How many understand these roles
The stage had been set here
Servants are commanded to obey
The leader demand respect and fear
But the servants fear only roles
Another leader came to command
But in love everyone obeyed
A friend to servants in regard
Love blossom to enthusiastic work
The question probes hearts alive
Which to follow of two leaders?
Demanding or commanding respect hive
Men knows that to hold brief
Salau O John©2010
Enjoy your day,
Salau John
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