Just thought of helping you out in a way on that relationship of yours, thinking we all need some understanding to make it last in our own way.
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Learning to develop your relationship skills can have a huge affect on your life and happiness in life, we all have relationships whether they are marriage, living together, sons, daughters, friends and family and having a good relationship with them makes a big difference.
The biggest downfall in relationships is poor communication, communicating poorly in a relationship leads to problems such as misunderstandings, disagreements, and anger and eventually putting your relationship at a distance. Improving your communication in relationships can help you to develop a deeper, lasting, more meaningful relationship and so a much happier life. There are many tips and techniques which are quick and easy to learn to get more out of your relationships and develop them into more meaningful ones, here are just a few.
- When dealing with conflicts in relationships never bring up the past, try to stick to the issue at hand and working towards a solution, bringing up past issues will only confuse the situation more and is very unlikely to go towards resolving the problem.
- Try to see any conflict from the other person’s point of view, if you are both only focusing on your own point of view there will very likely be no give and take and ultimately no solution to the problem.
- Always listen to what the person is saying, while many of us think we do very few actually do listen whole-heartedly, most of the time we drift off to think about other things or think about what the person is going to say next.
Don’t immediately get on the defensive when you are criticized, while this is hard to do, as no one like to hear criticism it is important to understand the others thoughts.
- Instead of being pig headed and always trying to win the argument, try looking for ways that you can come to some sort of compromise together, working together is more productive than working against each other.
- If tempers become frayed while discussing a difference of opinion, take a break; going at it all out will only lead to one or the other saying something which they will regret when cooled down.
- Don’t always put the blame on the other person, realize that you are not perfect and not always right all the time.
- If you feel your relationship is going downhill fast then don’t be afraid to get some help via counseling.
- Make time for your relationships; take long walks that give you the opportunity to talk instead of sitting down in front of the TV.
- Make a surprise and unexpected call to your loved one, family members or friends if for nothing else but just to say “Hi, I was just thinking about you”
- Make them feel special every now and again, give them a token of your appreciation to let them know you care or to say thank you.
- In loving relationships make sure the other knows how you feel, when talking hold hands or show some other sign of affection to them.
TO YOU
I have given my love to you
And nothing else holds me
I have sailed my words, my due
And none can hold me back
All I have I’ve tray you
Though my lights are obscured
All I’ll be I’ve shown you
Though for now God’s our line
You have given your heart to me
And nothing else held you back
You have shown more love to me
And proved that God is true
All you have you’ve given out
Though many times I pretend truly
All you’ve won was spiritually bout
Though truly Gods love made it sure
Our love was cloven from heaven
For through Gods love we’re out
And the end our love grows fruits, leaven
Salau O John©2010
LET’S GO BACK
The foundation was rightly laid
But in building, cements, not enough
The beginning was correctly paved
But in the middle we wobbled
Now prayers are calling order
And time is pursuing unseen faces
While the future waits on plans alive
And hard-work takes tolls in places
The foundation is intact, let’s renovate
Many more things miss9ng can be added
But only with the builders to collaborate
Bringing back the missing links of beginning
It should have been to the end
But many things stole time away
And uncompleted brings many bends
Let’s go back to the beginning again
Salau O John©2010
YOUR LOVE
It was your love keeping me
I kept on moving and glowing
It was your love setting me free
I kept on sowing and showing
What hails me without your love?
For so many times I fall short
Yet you stood in all my resolve
Helping me to move in the forth
What am I without your love?
A moving bullet without a target
You were my all, my days revolve
And in all I’ve found no regret
Where would I have been without you?
For like a child I fail to grow
But through the mist you were true
And all in all I can glow
Salau O John©2010
To your success,
Salau John (O.O.J)
aka
T1
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