By holding onto grudges, we are holding onto the past and this holds us back and stops us from growing and going onward with our lives. Grudges and not allowing ourselves to let go of the past is negative and negativity holds us back and stops us from achieving what we are capable of achieving out of life and encourages resentment, unhappiness and fear instead of being happy in life and finding peace within ourselves. Forgiveness is the key to happiness, true forgiveness is when you can release all your negative feelings towards another and let them go completely, you have to let the grudge go not only through words of acceptance but also feel it in your heart and soul.
Why is forgiving so difficult to do?
It is our negative ego that causes us to hold a grudge and tells us not to let it go, like all things that block success and happiness in our life, negativity again plays a huge part, only this time it affects our ego. By letting negativity affect our lives this way we are opening up the door and welcoming bitterness and deep resentment and these manifest deep within us and show themselves in our health. Holding onto a grudge causes ulcers, stress and general overall poor health so it is essential that we learn to let go of our resentment and move on with life by letting go of our grudges. As with every other problem relating to negativity in our lives it is all about how we think, forgiveness is all about letting go of harmful train of thought patterns and developing new ones.
Developing the ability to let go
Developing the ability to let go takes time, if you allow yourself to look at your feelings honestly and calmly then you will realize that negative feelings evaporate and you begin to feel peace of mind through letting go of deep resentment. The key to truly forgiving is first being able to release your hurt and anger that person has caused you, without letting go of these feelings; true forgiveness is next to impossible. If you try to forgive without releasing these feelings then the hurt and anger you feel will only continue to build and will manifest as resentment further down the road and resentment will eventually rear its ugly head, have no doubt about that.
A great way of releasing your feelings is to look directly at them and in great detail, admitting what it is that has hurt you and why it hurt you and realizing why you have to let it go, look at your feelings in a different light and gradually allow yourself to forgive and let go. Forgiveness has to come from deep within you, there is no outside force which keeps a grudge building up, the feelings of forgiveness can only be generated from within yourself, only you can take responsibility and forgive and let go and move on in a more peaceful and contented life.
THIS COMMON LIFE
Daily we go on with different situations
Trying to breathe different facts out
Though seeing so many things, no consolation
Higher or lower we are compelled
Situations differs to all in bliss
Whether sorrowful or joyful we go
The trailing and training of all these
We are humans in our connotations
We go on again breaking rules
Running the race life offers all
Friends or enemies may toil
But we all do get there
O for knowledge to brood all!
The heart lingers over living choices
We are making the calls to ball
Our common life is calling onward
Salau O John©2010
I TEACH TODAY
Somehow we’ve met here today
Tomorrow may not be foretold
But in our today don’t delay
As I tray all I’ve learned
Maybe we were meant to meet
I know not what tomorrow holds
Maybe just for your season unfit
We are friends today but tomorrow
All that I’ve gleaned in facts
To you I sail before time
Tomorrow may be our friendship pact
We see nothing but our today
I’ve only come here to teach
To tray that I’ve only seen
As the highest knowledge none can reach
My gleaned, known, suffered, I give
Salau O John©2010
To your success,
Salau John
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