THE CAREER YOU LOVE

Hi  Friend,

Just little of love for you in this season of love. Hoping you'll love this piece to help you out in your planning for that big break in your career and success.

Can you really find a career you love?

Is it really possible to wake up on a Monday morning and WANT to go to work?

If you believe the results of a recent 2007 survey by Nigerian based "The Conference Board Inc." it's not very likely. The survey revealed that more than 50% of the workforce is unhappy.

Some of these people are dissatisfied with the conditions at their workplace. Such things as rates of pay, co-workers, job security, physical working conditions, benefits, or even their boss, affect job satisfaction.

For these people, a change in pay or recognition for something achieved may be enough to improve their situation.

But all the other unhappy people are not satisfied with the actual tasks they are doing in their job. The only way they will be happier is if they do something totally different - i.e., take a different career direction.

These people didn't ask the right questions in the first place to avoid making the wrong career decision.

The biggest thing preventing you from getting a career you love... believe it or not... is YOU!

Many people are simply not prepared to put in the effort needed, preferring to take the easy way out and accept second best... or maybe even whatever seemed like a good idea at the time.

And that is such a huge shame!
It's important to realize that choosing a career (or changing careers) is right up there with getting married, having kids, and buying a house.

It is one of THE most important decisions you will EVER make in your lifetime!

You spend more than half of almost every day of your life either at work, or travelling to and from work.

And what happens at work, whether it's good or bad, affects ALL the other aspects of your life - your health, family, finances, relationships, self-esteem and so on.

Choosing a career is NOT something that can be done in less than five minutes, but unfortunately, that's how much thought some people put into it.

Choosing a career involves:
1. Looking closely at yourself
2. Researching jobs which might be suitable
3. Being able to make a decision, and
4. Acting on, and being happy with, that decision.
The first of these steps in finding a career you love is "self-discovery".

It looks at such things as:
* The things you like and dislike doing
* The things you are good and bad at doing
* The skills you have or need to get
* Your achievements to date, and what you want to achieve in the future
* Your family background
* Your attitudes, values and personal style.
Many people find it extremely difficult, if not even threateningly impossible, to answer such questions about "me".

But a thorough, honest and realistic self-assessment is vital if you are to gather the necessary information to make a good career decision... if you are to find a career you might love to do!

Because once you are armed with all this information about yourself, you'll start to get a really good picture of career areas most suited to you.

And just as important, you'll have a much better idea of what does NOT suit you!

Then it's time to do some more research... this time into the different types of specific jobs available in the area you are suited to.

Find out such things as:
What training is required?
Where can you do it?
What duties/tasks are involved in the job?
What hours will I work?
How will it impact on my lifestyle?
What companies offer work in this field? Where?
What opportunities are available for future advancement?
There are always many hard questions that come up that need answers in the pursuit of the ideal career.

For example... suppose you find out you need to do a four-year training course in a different town.
Are you prepared to move?
How can you support yourself?
Are you going to "have a go" and see what happens? Or are you going to be committed and stick with your decision?

What's going to happen if you have to go in a different direction?

Do you have a "plan B" that you will be just as happy with?
You can see why so many people give up chasing a career they might love. It is just so much easier to take the path of least resistance.

Are you going to get what you want from your career? From your life?
Or are you going to settle for second best?

Now go and Accelerate Your Effectiveness! Love you lots!

To your success,
Salau O John

NONE LIKE ME

My intuition; I was born with it

My abilities; I found none like me

Daily I practice to keep fit

As a man my heart is free

Who is like me I search

I am me created different

My talent daily I unleash

All that I’ve given not for affluence

I have made my mind up

Turning back I can’t fathom

Always to do nothing to flop

Giving to all in true wisdom

My life for others future kingdom

Today I am only somebody now

One day someone comes for this freedom

I leave my pant, none like me

Salau O John©

GIVING IT ALL

For love, for comfort, my everything

But I’ve seen men’s camouflage

In words, charity, conversation I fling

The word in deception betrays me

How many have built this day?

The word not character flow

My friends laugh behind me today

I beckon on future in truth

Who gives and understanding?

Selfishness has woken up again

I betray not that which reign

Life like God my time given

All the world y time given

The nature of men to release

But truth burns men’s refrains

All to give for blessings sake

Salau O John©

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Family Comes First

I can't count the many times I've heard someone complaining that they're a failure. In fact, I think I hear my own voice echoing similar remarks during times of discouragement in my youth.

The truth is that God didn't create failures. He created us after His own image. Therefore, we're extremely loving, creative and intelligent beings who can choose to see value in our lives if we desire because we have also been given a free will. This means that we have a choice to believe whatever reality about ourselves we want.

Therefore we can also choose how we think about success. Instead of making it a gauge for how much money we earn or what type of job we have, we need to use it as a measure for the joy and fulfillment we have from putting family first.

We'll become rich from the inside out with the result of a higher confidence level and self-esteem. This is where wealth begins and our humanity grows to ultimately prosper us in areas of financial and career growth. When we label ourselves as failures, we deny the value of our lives and families.

We're creating a legacy for our children to be discontented and unappreciative of the sheer joy of being alive. Putting family first gives ultimate value to our lives and life in general. You'll find that making this commitment will give your life more quality and depth. On trips to visit the elderly in rest homes I saw many lonely people whose children never visited.

I can't say for sure, but had they put their families first, they might have had the wealth of a child, relative or friend by their side. I've heard many wealthy people express sorrow over the fact that they had put earning money and job status before their families, having believed for most of their lives that the wealth of money had been enough to sustain their relationships. Now alone and perhaps "hated" by their families, they reach the end of their lives, "humanity poor" with no understanding of how to undo the damage.

After all, they had been experts at earning money not how to love their families. Insure today that you let your family know they come first. When you make a commitment to do something with or for them, don't let work make you break your promise. Keeping your word to your family should be as important as keeping it to your employer or clients. Take special time to organize outings together and vacations that will help you bond as well as a time to relax from work and think about enjoying your life.

Living only for work will eventually make you a lonely person who is estranged from the true meaning of life and true giving – of yourself, not money! I've always promoted a well rounded balance in life. I'm also the first to admit it's easy, especially when you love your work to put it first, but at the end of the day all that really counts is having a family that will be there for you when work doesn't go quite right, or if you need emotional support to get through difficult times.

Even more important is the support you give to them. Work can't fill you with the warmth that being needed by those you love can give. If or when you start to complain that you're a failure, think about the faces of those you love and you'll see a vision of true success.

 THIS LEGACY

So many things to run after

As daily the future is built

But many are running for cover

As being selfish is killing tomorrow

What will be left after Adieu?

A question for all to bear

Who will take the actual due?

As all must go their onward way

Children are crying for leadership

O for the pains we build

Who will curb this courtship?

Tomorrow will speak nothing matters

Will our death speak our truth?

A question for the children coming

What will our light on bout?

Today speaks of tomorrow after

Salau O John©

CAREER VS RELATIONSHIP

This boils on homeward alive

Man must work to strive

Though love is praying for time

Our understanding calls our prime

The future is calling for balance

Though the stress makes no reliance

This issue is killing factual love

As daily misunderstanding revolves

There’s no time but created time

The chance boils on for seeing

Though we truly prime the prime

Our hearts cry out for time

Where shall we go from here?

Wealth is called upon to help

As family matters boils here

The time will call us on

Salau O John©

THE DRAINS OF SUCCESS

This boils the mind daily

Tasking the mind to breed

It’s the thought of working, living gaily

The joy dies out each day

As days are wasted for growth

Running for others to become

The worries bother and loathe

We are trying but this success?

O the pains none understands

Waking up early sleeping late

Time rolling for others stand

Hoping and running for our own

This drain of success is killing

For who is praised for this?

No days to rest in the billings

Another day is calling again today!

Salau O John©

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Are Self-Confidence and Self-Esteem the Same Thing?

This is the question I am asked time and time again – which just goes to show how important we value self-esteem and self-confidence. The short answer to the question is 'no'. Self-esteem refers to how you judge yourself. Self-confidence comes from the specific things that you do. This means that the more you do a particular action, the better you will become at doing it, and the more self-confidence you will have … in that particular action.

Can you have low self-esteem and high self-confidence, or vice versa? Hmmm. Well, I have known people who, when in a social situation flatly refuse to open their mouths and yet, in a business environment are the most self-assured people you could meet. Generally speaking, though, self-esteem and self-confidence tend to go hand-in-hand.

The problem with low self-esteem is that it can be very debilitating. It can stop you from even trying something new … for fear of failure. And if you are afraid to get started, how can you become good at it?

Consider these self-esteem issues:
* No appreciation of what you can do.
* No recognition or respect for your own abilities, potentials and value.
* Placing no importance on your strengths and not trusting in them.
* No acceptance of your limitations.
* No acceptance of these limitations or understanding that some limitations can be overcome.
* Being worried and concerned with what you imagine others think of you.
* Having no real sense of who you are.

Perhaps I should point out here that EVERYONE has self-esteem issues at some point in their life! However, if you have personal power, you will also have more than your fair share of self-esteem and self-confidence.

So what is it that determines whether or not we have high self-esteem? Our childhoods. Self-esteem begins with the responses that we get from our parents, siblings, teachers and peers when we're growing up.

Those responses are tied into our sex: boys are praised for their achievements, and so they grow up with a sense of self based on how well they master tasks; girls are praised for pleasing others, and so they grow up with a sense of self based on how well they establish and maintain relationships.

As you can see, it is relatively easy for a child to grow up with either a very high, or very low, sense of self. The child then becomes an adult who carries a belief system which may be entirely unfair.

The responses to which children are subjected as children are largely responsible for irrational beliefs - the largest contributors of low self-esteem. They are:
* I must be loved, or at least liked, and approved by every significant person I meet.
* If I am to be worthwhile, I must be completely competent, make no mistakes, and achieve in every possible way.
* Some people are bad and wicked and they should be blamed and punished for this.
* It is dreadful, nearly the end of the world, when things don't go how I'd like them to.
* Unhappiness, including mine, is caused by factors outside my control, so I can do little about it.
* If something might be unpleasant or frightening, I should worry about it a great deal.
* It's easier to put off something unpleasant or difficult than it is to face up to it.
* I need to depend on someone stronger than myself.
* My problems were caused by events in my past, and that's why I have problems now.
* I should be very upset by other people's problems and difficulties.

Is self-esteem really important? Of course!
High self-esteem allows you to cope with whatever comes along. It gives you the skills to face whatever happens in your life.

High self-esteem gives you the courage to try new things and a willingness to "have a go".

High self-esteem allows you to make good judgements and decisions – and not worry about what other people might think or say.

If you are reading this because you don't have any self-esteem, then let me assure you it is possible to develop it! That's personal experience speaking, by the way. I grew up with less than zero self-esteem thanks to my parents, became a teenager with zero self-esteem thanks to being good at sport and arts (so the self-confidence developed) BUT as an adult, I resolved to change. Truly, that's all you need … the resolve to change.

If you are resolved to change, then check out my next article because I will be giving you some guidelines.

If you are a parent who would like to boost the self-esteem of your children (or even somebody else's), then some tips will appear in a week or two …. so please come back.

Just remember this: someone's opinion of you does not have to become your reality.

WHAT YOU ARE

Hated by the world no lie

But here lies who you are

Although loved for what you are not

Try to tray not in another person’s sir

Where lies your footprint

No greatness in idle inhibition

And your power lies not in another’s track

For inhibition stands a limitation

Your own steps only must ply

For the world waits your impression

And that which mars stands only if untried

For your impression lies your promotion

What you are is what you are

Though the world you may hate

But all these the world do fear

And you are what you are only in your impression

Salau O John©

YOU’VE GOT IT

Everybody’s got potentials

Check out which is yours

When you know your ability

Then you’ll have agility

When you find your responsibility

Then you’ll feel responsible

This is not poetic justice

But the truth from true critic

Never say it’s over

When it’s only the beginning

You have a goal to achieve

Before your time

Never try the short cuts

It’s sometimes a way backward

Time and tide may not wait

Only if you wait will you know

Just be yourself

Salau O John©

WHAT YOU’VE GOT

Here hails that you’ve got

Yet from here to there the search

But the way your way you fought

And pave way another’s shoe-show

Wished you think yearn things out

Your roles and rays in that you’ve got

And using it a fine joy throughout

But learn only the important suite

What you’ve got is you

But other talents why loot

So many times your work’s undue

Yet the path do must pave un-tooth

A future yours your fight mesmerized

Though in others eyes you are socks

But persistence with patience memorize

For many in luck do find the bucks

Salau O John©

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What Are Your Values About Life?

The values you set for yourself in life should be critically important to you and all others in your life. The way you were raised as a child should be a reflection of what those values are like today. I sometimes wonder today if people really care about what kind of values they live by. It seems that our society today seems less caring about what kind of life's values they live by.


Just recently I read an article in a senior citizen's newsletter that really concerned me about this particular subject. The article was about a male senior citizen who was now involved in an extramarital relationship and who thought his affair was perfectly legitimate.

Here's the real shame of the whole story. His wife was now in the late stages of Alzheimer's disease and even though he wasn't interested in a divorce he believed this affair was right for him to be in. What is even a bigger shame was his friends and children even endorsed this affair.

As far as I know all marriage vows include the words "for better or for worse until death do we part". Maybe he forgot that pledge and was only interested in his own personal satisfaction. People have to realize when faced with challenges in their lives that the values they set for themselves should create the support they need to survive them.

I may not married but soon the bells will cling, yet with all that I have seen, gleaned and pass through though, I believe values can be holding unto and I can say I've tried to live up to some pretty strong ones. I believe that is how I've kept myself and my relationship for going.

There's a chart I came across on the Internet recently that may be of interest to you. See how you stand on all of life's values. Take time to assess your life's values. See if there are areas you would like to improve. If you would like to know more about this subject you can reach me at treasured1creativeideas@yahoo.com or comment to: http://www.orgsites.com/fl/treasured1/

FAITHFULNESS

The heart is the power of obedience

Though some men in conscience have died

Faithfulness stands out sounding motivation

For the same cause Christ bled and sigh

Here wails the waiting of hope

For many in kindred mind bled

What lays in store our line?

For the flesh and the spirit do fled

Where are the faithful?

The world of dying men do pine

Where sound the untold stories?

All men in selfishness do shine

To love is faithfulness

And to be is truthfulness

But our worlds undo woes

And pray for power in kindness

Salau O John©

SEE BEYOND

Troubles will try the heart away

But get away from the people to God

And stop, listen; a word he’ll say

Worry not but plant in the Lord

The sky is the worlds’ limit

But in God I sail your burden

For isolated in Him, you’re fit

And known a path alight open

See thou the stars with scars

Your limitation your burden

God lays the imagination so far

But thou must see, buying concern

O for the heart, God understands

Ah! The manifold blessings of God

How great they are, greater than sand

See beyond the physical, but the Lord

Salau O John

CHANGE THOUGHT

Thought change is attitude corrected

And attitude brought about altitude

Yet many things yoked dejected

But that alight burrow fortitude

Thoughts make the world possible

Though changes are hard to tie

But a correct turning, a credible

Even when all things want sigh

With your thoughts comes your doing

And with the mind wears all change

For the power to form lays your going

Though the world, a friend thy strange

Here hope coping change thoughts

For the lesson you ought taught

Here comes the heaving, your heart

But that change yours to chart

Salau O John©

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Success Of The Most Sensitive Kind

Working a status job, making a large income and achieving the power to sometimes "buy one's way in life" is a lifestyle many believe to be the ultimate goal of success. But I must pose the question, what good is such a purpose if it only fulfills the superficial desires of an untamed soul?


Something is missing when women measure their self-worth by their designer Jimmy Choo shoes, Valentino handbags, and the best plastic surgery money can buy, while their male counterparts turn their back on their hearts and follow someone else's dreams as the path to their riches and material wealth.

Is there a greater destiny? A place that's still daring yet doesn't cost a soul and peace of mind? Can we still have adventure and live with the excitement of what a new day will bring us if we dare to seek after success of the most sensitive kind?

As we listen to that soft, yet distinguishable voice that comes from deep within we're led to a place of giving instead of taking. Offering compassion instead of judgment and looking to help others prosper in the midst of seeking our own wealth. It's about giving of ourselves when needed, even if we've got too much to do.

Success of the most sensitive kind comes from loving instead of hating, sharing the truth instead of lies and keeping our word when it's not always so easy. It contains seeds of power that grow within us to build strong characters with boldness and courage to achieve great and uncommon accomplishments. It's a great path to riches and wealth that doesn't require the sacrifice of who we are today and who we will become tomorrow. It gives us peace and lasting fulfillment on the journey to our goals and once we've arrived.

It gets us through our youth, mid-life and old age because it's not discriminating, only empowering to make us our best no matter who we are or where we're from. Success of the most sensitive kind is color blind so there are no excuses for getting left behind. It's our choice to have it and keep it. We hold the key to unlock it by looking within and listening to our hearts.

So trust yours for continued inner growth to get you through times of difficulty, the unknown, unintended confusion and most important to keep you close to those you love. This is the greatest success that will ultimately bring the greatest rewards you can achieve; love, honor, respect and wisdom. They will all come together to direct and prosper you, to encourage you, and to promote you in due time to accomplish your greatest life's work--The Real YOU!

Go and become....

THIS COMMON LIFE

Daily we go on with different situations

Trying to breathe different facts out

Though seeing so many things, no consolation

Higher or lower we are compelled

Situations differs to all in bliss

Whether sorrowful or joyful we go

The trailing and training of all these

We are humans in our connotations

We go on again breaking rules

Running the race life offers all

Friends or enemies may toil

But we all do get there

O for knowledge to brood all!

The heart lingers over living choices

We are making the calls to ball

Our common life is calling onward

Salau O John©

YOU ARE APPRECIATED

So rare a friend you are

Truly I found no words due

As in all you’ve shown more care

You are truly highly appreciated here

Though face-to-face I may not say this

Within my heart the pangs did grow

As in all things my true bliss

 Thanks for being there in this

Today I sail you my heart true words

You are more than a friend to me

Who else can my words sword?

You’ve been more than expected here

You are truly highly appreciated indeed

I sail once but twice today

For all your run and deeds

May the heavens be there for you

Salau O John©

The Wonderful World of Faith and Creativity

ry often we can be bogged down with a problem and really struggle to find a solution. The creative juices fail to flow and we become totally frustrated at our total lack of creativity.


So do we resign ourselves to the fact that we are obviously not the creative sort?

Or can we train ourselves to think with creative spirit?

Firstly let's define creativity. Creativity is the ability to solve problems with new methods to accomplish daily tasks. This can also lead to new insights and visions to help achieve goals and obtain success.

So is creativity inherited?

If we look at children at play we can see tremendous examples of creativity. They can take every day objects and create totally new games to play. The playground is full of wild imagination and creativity.

So where did we loose it all?

Routine

As we have seen, children have an inexhaustible ability for creativity. But as we get older life becomes full of instruction. Restrictions are placed upon us and we lose a lot of the ability to think for ourselves. Creativity flies out of the window. Systems and repetitiveness stifle creativity. Strict time tables, daily routines, working in closed areas and desk jobs all hamper our imaginations.

Free time

It is virtually impossible to avoid all routine but what we do need is to develop some free time. Put aside one day per week where nothing is planned. Just let the day unfold and "go with the flow". Spend time going to places like the seaside or strolling through the woods; places of natural interest with open spaces. At work create a few minutes of free time. There are some people who spend their free time alone and then spend that time thinking of work. They even take that work to bed and dwell on work issues as they fall asleep. These people need to develop free time un-associated with work for the sake of creativity and also for the sake of their sanity.

Left brain – Right brain

Our brains are divided into two hemispheres- the left brain and the right brain. The left side deals with our logical and reasoning thought patterns. Our right side of the brain handles intuition and creativity. Much of our work life today asks us to use logic and reasoning and therefore our right side of the brain becomes somewhat redundant. Ideally we need to exercise both sides of the brain to get the most of our cerebral abilities.

How's best to develop creative thinking?

1. Understand that there is no exact solution to a problem, but there will always be more than one solution to that problem.

2. Don't give in to false beliefs. If we believe there is no solution to our problem then there won't be. Have faith.

3. Never restrict or dismiss thoughts. Two silly thoughts may well lead to a third good thought.

4. Break away from routine when thinking of solutions. This allows for a better flow of creative thoughts.

5. Brainstorm. Ask others. Again two ideas that may seem ridiculous may lead to a third, sensible idea.

6. Take time occasionally to do something not done before.

7. Put aside some time as free time.

8. Spend time with creative people. Creativity is infectious and we may be pleasantly surprised as to how creative we really are when we compare ourselves to these people.

We needn't be restricted to a path of logical thinking. We all have that wonderful ability to be creative. Breaking away from routine and giving ourselves time to think will stimulate creative thinking and then we will find that no problem will ever be without a solution.

How fantastic is that?

TELL THE TRUTH

Hiding behind the curtain here

Shielding the truth from the truth

Hoping lies will tray its care

Forgetting the end of white being white

How many hearts are pained today!

Thinking the camouflage won’t hurt

Forgetting their days and ways dismayed

And searching for truth in a locket

What is given is what is gotten

Though thou may hide in closet

But light is light in the open

As only your perception makes things so

Tell the truth in all things

Though its hardness may prevail you

But the gains will be your reign

As none can hold you down

Salau O John©

NETWORKING OR SOCIAL

A call came through, epistolary

But the understanding betrays all

Being online is calling stories

But truly friends must be curtailed

Many things this was made for

Our business and friendship to make

Though sometimes love comes more

But the truth must reign here

Who knows how many hearts dies?

The truth is calling on all

Who can attend without hearty lies?

Our world is built of true knowledge

O for the understanding we seek

Networking or love that we pray

One day the truth will leek

Who can blame these online pains?

Salau O John©

THE MAIN FRIENDS

When the entire world runs away

When the pains of life is panned

And all backs turn our way

True friends make life counts

When poverty strikes the heart

And words collide with worldly faces

Even though enemies play part

True friends will stand not watching

When nothing seems working out

And the heart burns out daily

Even business light may blow out

Our main friends will stand time

There is no living without friends

As friendship makes easy calls

True friends are blessings at the end

They are our main friends for life

Salau O John©

Thank you all,

T1 (O.O. John)