Tuesday, February 9, 2010

Family Comes First

I can't count the many times I've heard someone complaining that they're a failure. In fact, I think I hear my own voice echoing similar remarks during times of discouragement in my youth.

The truth is that God didn't create failures. He created us after His own image. Therefore, we're extremely loving, creative and intelligent beings who can choose to see value in our lives if we desire because we have also been given a free will. This means that we have a choice to believe whatever reality about ourselves we want.

Therefore we can also choose how we think about success. Instead of making it a gauge for how much money we earn or what type of job we have, we need to use it as a measure for the joy and fulfillment we have from putting family first.

We'll become rich from the inside out with the result of a higher confidence level and self-esteem. This is where wealth begins and our humanity grows to ultimately prosper us in areas of financial and career growth. When we label ourselves as failures, we deny the value of our lives and families.

We're creating a legacy for our children to be discontented and unappreciative of the sheer joy of being alive. Putting family first gives ultimate value to our lives and life in general. You'll find that making this commitment will give your life more quality and depth. On trips to visit the elderly in rest homes I saw many lonely people whose children never visited.

I can't say for sure, but had they put their families first, they might have had the wealth of a child, relative or friend by their side. I've heard many wealthy people express sorrow over the fact that they had put earning money and job status before their families, having believed for most of their lives that the wealth of money had been enough to sustain their relationships. Now alone and perhaps "hated" by their families, they reach the end of their lives, "humanity poor" with no understanding of how to undo the damage.

After all, they had been experts at earning money not how to love their families. Insure today that you let your family know they come first. When you make a commitment to do something with or for them, don't let work make you break your promise. Keeping your word to your family should be as important as keeping it to your employer or clients. Take special time to organize outings together and vacations that will help you bond as well as a time to relax from work and think about enjoying your life.

Living only for work will eventually make you a lonely person who is estranged from the true meaning of life and true giving – of yourself, not money! I've always promoted a well rounded balance in life. I'm also the first to admit it's easy, especially when you love your work to put it first, but at the end of the day all that really counts is having a family that will be there for you when work doesn't go quite right, or if you need emotional support to get through difficult times.

Even more important is the support you give to them. Work can't fill you with the warmth that being needed by those you love can give. If or when you start to complain that you're a failure, think about the faces of those you love and you'll see a vision of true success.
 THIS LEGACY
So many things to run after
As daily the future is built
But many are running for cover
As being selfish is killing tomorrow

What will be left after Adieu?
A question for all to bear
Who will take the actual due?
As all must go their onward way

Children are crying for leadership
O for the pains we build
Who will curb this courtship?
Tomorrow will speak nothing matters

Will our death speak our truth?
A question for the children coming
What will our light on bout?
Today speaks of tomorrow after
Salau O John©

CAREER VS RELATIONSHIP
This boils on homeward alive
Man must work to strive
Though love is praying for time
Our understanding calls our prime

The future is calling for balance
Though the stress makes no reliance
This issue is killing factual love
As daily misunderstanding revolves

There’s no time but created time
The chance boils on for seeing
Though we truly prime the prime
Our hearts cry out for time

Where shall we go from here?
Wealth is called upon to help
As family matters boils here
The time will call us on
Salau O John©

THE DRAINS OF SUCCESS
This boils the mind daily
Tasking the mind to breed
It’s the thought of working, living gaily
The joy dies out each day

As days are wasted for growth
Running for others to become
The worries bother and loathe
We are trying but this success?

O the pains none understands
Waking up early sleeping late
Time rolling for others stand
Hoping and running for our own

This drain of success is killing
For who is praised for this?
No days to rest in the billings
Another day is calling again today!
Salau O John©

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