Today I just felt a little love poem will be in other to share out here for those who are in love and have their heart in a relationship they are looking into and working in.
Happy enjoying the little poem i titled: "To You"and "What's This", all for love and truthful hearty joys.
“So since you’re obviously such a smart ass, tell me the answer to this:
What’s the meaning of life?”
That’s just what always seems to happen whenever I get in a ‘deeper’ conversation with people. And the conversation always somehow seems to take off into a massive attack of questions, in which others are always asking the questions, and I’m supposed to be the one answering them.
After all, I’m the “smart ass”…
And as a ‘punishment’ for being such a “smart ass”, they think they need to press me hard by asking me about ‘the meaning of life’.
Because obviously, the greatest minds of all ages have devoted their lifelong attention to this question. And apparently, no one has ever been able to come up with a satisfactory explanation.
So the “smart ass” must know…
And since I’m “such a smart ass”, I’m supposed to have the answer to any question in life that any person may have.
“You think you know the answer to everything. So what’s the meaning of life then, huh?!”
Now, obviously, during my relatively short time here on this plane of existence, I have asked myself about the meaning of life too. And I’ll tell you “the answer” (i.e. my answer) in a minute.
(And I’ll warn you upfront that it may surprise you…)
But first, let me make one thing clear:
I have no intention of being a “guru” who has all the answers. Nor would I ever pretend that I know the answer to anyone’s questions.
In fact, those who are pretending they know the answer to everything there is to ask, are merely confirming that they don’t.
And that’s because no one has the answer to anyone’s questions. Only you have the answer to your particular questions. I’ll clear this up in a moment too…
So anyway, I’ve been asking myself ‘the questions of life’ from an early age… I actually went through puberty pondering about the meaning of life. Am I crazy or what?
I guess that’s what you get when you become aware of the fact that you’re growing up with a whole bunch of family with different understandings of life and its meaning, while I myself put up with all the formalities life could teach me in their midst.
In a situation like that, you’re bound to ask questions…
I mean:
- Where the hell does that ‘black & white’ intellectual contrast between me and my family come from?
- Was I just lucky?
- And what the hell am I doing here analyzing the financial viability of this plan for optimizing this middleware application for decision-modeling evaluation of whether or not to State-subsidize local shrimp farms in this far out ‘no-man’s-land’ corner of this insignificant country I live in anyway (even though I’m paid for this meaningless and mind-numbing ‘work’)? What is that all about?
- For Pete’s sake, who the hell am I anyway?
- And what the hell are we all doing here anyway?
And then there’s all the stuff happening in the world. War, famine, disease, you name it.
We’ve got it all!
In a situation like that, you’re bound to ask questions…
I mean:
- Am I just lucky?
- Who the hell am I anyway?
- What the hell are we all doing here anyway?
- What the hell is the meaning of life?
And then we look for others to answer our questions. Religious leaders, political leaders, professors, “smart asses”, and so on…
But for me personally, none of these has ever been able to give me a satisfactory answer.
So for years (even at my young age) I kept pondering, giving myself a hard time because everything I did with my life seemed so insignificant. But I kept doing what I was doing, while wondering why the hell I was doing it anyway…
And I can tell you one thing:
Devoting your life to doing what you really don’t want to do, while not seeing any perspective or purpose in what you’re doing, does not uplift the spirit!
In fact, the whole thing became rather depressing, and even started manifesting in some ‘physical’ health issues.
And that’s when it suddenly occurred to me… through a song I heard (ironically titled “The Answer”):
Oh, the answer lies beyond the pain
All the questions in our minds, we surely ask in vain
Like I said before, it suddenly occurred to me that there is no one answer to all the questions of life.
After all, how could there be? Every new answer I found brought up a new question. Put differently, “all the questions in my mind, I surely asked in vain…”
And I’ll tell you one thing:
This realization was one of the most liberating experiences in my life.
Because it also made me ‘realize’ the most liberating realization of all… Which also happened to be “the answer” to the question of “the meaning of life”… So guess what my answer was…
Here it comes:
LIFE HAS NO MEANING!
“What, are you crazy? Shut him up, there must be a meaning to life!”
No really, there’s no meaning… Let me tell you:
LIFE HAS NO MEANING. YOU BRING MEANING TO LIFE!
That’s right.
You can keep asking questions (in vain), and never find anything but new questions…
Because “the answer” won’t come from anywhere but within yourself. Once you release the pain, anger, guilt, frustration, or whatever it is that’s holding you back… you’ll know what’ll bring meaning to your life.
Once again, we’re not trying to be the “gurus with all the answers” here.
As said, people pretending to know it all are just confirming that they don’t.
Sure, we may be smart asses, but we don’t necessarily have the “concrete answer” to your questions. All we’re trying to do is give you the right tools and knowledge to get you to think for yourself, and then make you come up with your own answers.
It’s usually at this stage that people ask me:
“So what should I do with my life then? What’ll bring meaning to my life?”
Well, ask yourself that! I don’t know what makes you happy, what makes you feel fulfilled, or what gives you a purpose. Only you know that!
And don’t come up with something like not knowing what you really want… You know what you want! You’re just afraid to admit it…
So come on, admit it. It doesn’t matter what anyone else thinks. This is about you. It’s about your life! We’re programmed to think that making yourself a priority in life is selfish. It isn’t, especially if you use the benefits that come to you for the benefit of others.
So here’s a thought:
Bring meaning to your life. That’s how you live on purpose instead of ‘at random’. And that’s how you’ll make yourself happy. As that song “The Answer” concludes:
Now I know the answers never meant a thing And with each instant that I breathe, I feel the joy that life can bring
Come along with me, come along with me Seek the truth, you shall not find another lie Come along with me, come along with me Seek the truth, and you will find another life
“So how am I gonna make that happen?”, you ask…
Well, first admit to yourself what you really want in life. And then watch your e-mail. Because we’ll tell you about a simple way to start living on purpose!
Truly we need to smile more often to help us out, as smiling makes us become easily accessible to the world and gives us hope in making friends.
First: Our smile shows others people that we are friendly.
If a stranger approached you and gained eye contact with you and then treated you to a broad smile you will have a fairly good idea that they are being friendly and certainly mean you no harm.
By contrast we would find it far more difficult to offer trust to the stranger that wears a scowl or unfriendly face features.
Second: A smile can make people happy.
When someone treats you to a smile, even a stranger, you usually smile back. For that moment you enjoy a flash of positive communication without saying a word. As you walk through a crowed area such as a main street you can do this hundreds times in a very short period of time.
When you smile at someone who is not already smiling and they smile back you have brought a moment of happiness into their lives which, who knows, could last all day.
Third: Smiling is infectious.
When you spend a lot in the company of someone who smiles a lot you will soon discover that their smile starts to wear off on you. It is hard not to return a smile; most of us do it at a subliminal level without thinking.
Fourth: Smiling can make you popular.
Which type of people do you prefer? A person that has a tired and listless face. An expression that may reflect their inner thoughts of boredom and worry? Or, would you prefer someone who is always smiling and shows that they have an enthusiastic passion for life.
I think for the majority of us the choice would be obvious!
Fifth: Smiling can help you to make new friends
In the same way few of us would choice a miserable person for a friend. Lets face it we all want someone who is going to be bubbly and a happy and positive.
Sixth: A smile is usually returned
When someone smiles back at you it make you feel good inside. You have just made a short but very positive communication and possibly the first step in the process of getting to know or making friends with someone new.
Seventh: Smiling makes you positive and happy inside.
When you smile it is hard to feel unhappy, negative or sad in anyway. Smiling gives you enthusiasm and drive, it is also habit forming.
Eight: A smile makes you look far more attractive.
You don’t see many celebrities or media personalities that are not smiling because if you did it is fairly certain that their popularity would quickly start to drop!
Ninth: Smiling also helps make you memorable to others!
Have you noticed that smiling people are usually far more memorable than those that are not? It is fact that you are 3 time more likely to remember the person that is smiling over the one that is wearing a negative or neutral features.
Tenth: Most importantly, smiling is good for your health!!!
When you are smiling you find whatever you are doing far easier. It releases stress, worry and tension that you may have built up throughout the day. Long term, developing the smiling habit will be one of the smartest things that you can do to improve most aspects of your life.
Eleventh: The effects of smiling can last for hours
Whatever problems and challenges you have in your life, smiling temporary puts them and hold. For a while you forget the problems and become positive, and while you are in a positive state you have far more potential and power to advance and improve your life.
Lastly: Smiling is FREE!
You are never going to run short of smiles and will always have enough to go around. When you weigh up the positive points of smiling it is a no brainer decision to do far more smiling and share them with as many people as possible.
Did you know that the universe will give and in great abundance if you follow a few simple rules. Too many people believe that all they have to do is just ask and then forget it, nothing could be further from the truth. The law of the universe is just that, a law, which must be followed if you are to succeed. The rules are not hard and do not require a huge amount of brain power to grasp, but once mastered the world can be your oyster.
These are the rules as I see them.
1: Do not upset the karma of Mother Nature, it has been well known for many years that there is indeed a universal force out there, that is ever willing to help anyone who asks for its help, BUT don't go insulting it by breaking the every first rule. That rule is, you must not wish for anything that will bring harm to the earth or anything or anyone that resides on it. In other words do not wish harm on your peers or hurt them in any way.
Too many people carry a grudge about something that has happen to them, unless you can let the grudge go you will never succeed in life, you see there is a saying that goes like this, Like attracts like. Positive attracts positive, negative attracts negative. So if you are carrying that type of attitude within you, what will happen……… Yes you got it you will attract just what you are carrying. So if your feelings towards something or someone are negative, then you know what the result will be unless you change it.
2: You have all heard the saying 'A Picture speaks louder than words" Well that saying is so very true and I will tell you why, but first we need to take a look at the two states of mind that each of us have, The conscious and the subconscious mind. The conscious mind is what we all use everyday of our lives, every waking minute the conscious mind is working, makes the decisions, the day to day choices that it is faced with. On the other hand the subconscious mind works quietly in the background, sees to it that we keep breathing, our eyes to blink, out hearts to continue to beat, All of this is done without any conscious effect on our parts.
However the subconscious mind does not stop there, for a start it remembers every word you have ever heard or spoken, every feeling you have ever had, be it good or bad. It knows fear, joy, and happiness, love even hate. One of its jobs is to make sure we get what we want, it does this by interrupting our very thoughts and because we think in pictures, that is what it sees. When you read a book are you thinking in words, or do you have a miniature movies going through our minds yes we all think in pictures. Yes we do think in pictures.
The subconscious mind unlike the conscious mind does not make judgments, it does not care if the input we are sending it is negative or positive in content, it makes no distinction, and it will operate on what we feed it, without question. That is a good thing if we are positive thinkers, but not so good if we are negative in nature. We have heard the saying, as a man thinks, so is he. Or we are what we think about all day. Napoleon Hill, in his book "think and grow rich" said it this way "Whatever the mind can conceive and believe the mind can achieve" For those who have not read it, I recommend it and if you have read it and never got anything out of it, Read it again, but this time take notice of everything you read and you will discover the secret formula within it's pages.
When we think about our goals, our dreams and desires we must see them as actual pictures, we must picture them as actually being the fact, the subconscious does not care, nor does it even check to find out, if what we are thinking is real of just a dream as yet.
PICTURES DO MORE FOR OUR MEMORIES
THAN WORDS COULD EVER DO
3: How much do we want our dreams and desires????
Yes I know we all want to achieve our goals, but what are we prepared to give to attain them. Are we prepared to give everything to succeed? Are we prepared to make it a obsession, a burning desire to live our dreams everyday of our life, even change our circle of friends if need be. That is the level of commitment we all need if we want to see our goals and dreams come to fruition. Don't get me wrong, this is not really that hard to do, its just a matter of commitment.
What do you do when you are interested in a new subject, new project, maybe a new member of the opposite sex comes into your live, do you just let it ride, No you give it all you have to give and more if that's possible, it becomes your one and only thought and interest. Then why not give that level of commitment to your goals and dreams, because that's what the universe expects of you. It's almost like the universe is trying you out, to see if your desire is strong enough to deserve it. But once it gives, it gives in great abundance.
How many times have you heard "I would love to drive a Rolls Royce one day, that Porsche or that BMW" yes I think we have all heard that type of thing from our peers, perhaps even from ourselves, But HOW MANY TIMES DO THOSE PEOPLE GET WHAT THEY WANT. I'll tell you what they do get, they get what they expect, what they think they are worthy of nothing more nothing less. So many of us have such a poor self image of ourselves we are happy to except what we can get, when it does not have to be like that. We simply don't expect any more although we would like to get more. Well guess what, who has to expect more and really know that you will get it, Need I say anymore.
The universe does not expect more than you have to give, but it does require that you have a top self image and faith that we will get it. If you have those things you will be a success and you will see all your dreams come true. When you write out a list of goals, be very specific about what you want and make it become a real part of you. Or you will never get what you are looking for.
4: You must make your dreams and goals your dominant thought, you must be very careful not to dwell on the negative but always make your thoughts positive, you might say something like this every morning and night, I don't like being the size I am. I hate being like this, I must lose weight soon. Ok you might think those words are positive, but you are still dwelling on the negative. You are still talking about Fat and how you don't like to be like that, instead of being positive by thinking and acting like you are already the weight you want to be, picturing yourself wearing the nice clothes, the way you feel about yourself etc..
If you take the very thing you want in life and make it a dominant thought, tie it all up with a graphic picture in you mind of the way you expect it to be, then you are well on your way to achieving it. You can make it as grand as you like, in fact the greater the better and don't settle for anything less than what you visualize, I repeat don't settle for anything less, you can and will achieve it. The universe is like that it will give without question.
Most people fail to change the way they see themselves, if your goal is to lose weight, then start changing the way you see yourself, instead of continuing to see yourself as FAT. Start to see yourself as THIN, wearing what you like, the perfect weight you want to be, imagine how other people will see you, the comments they will make. How you are going to feel when you have achieved your target. In other words change how you think and see yourself. You are a very special person, there is no other like you in all the world so if your self image is a little lacking, change it.
Every now and then I hear someone expressing wishful thoughts for their future. They sigh and make a promise to give more money when they become rich or they profoundly claim that as soon as they get their retirement, leave money they'll take that vacation they've been dreaming about. Saddest of all are the parents who promise to spend more time with their children when they don't have so much to do.
Such are the visions of the hopeful dreamers who never put faith and action into their desires. What they don't realize is that the money, the trip and whatever else they wish to have must be put into creation today. Yes, that's right! This moment is when your dreams begin, not tomorrow.
Many sorrowful dreamers have reached the end of their lives in sadness and alone because they believed that once everything they wanted became reality, they would have more money, they would get closer to family and most assuredly they would make a difference to the world.
Dear friend, the time to share your life, your love and your money is today. This moment is the only point in time when you can achieve anything. While each moment continues to pass away, so does your life -- unless you decide to live it.
Don't wait until you're rich to live your life or share what you have. Give from your heart, your talents and what money you do have with joy and faith. I can assure you that God will bless you with great opportunities you would never expect as a result. This is how it works. You care about others beyond yourself and desire their success as if it were your own.
Do you believe you have nothing to give? Maybe someone only needs for you to listen or share a DVD of their favorite music. You can take someone to the grocery store when their car breaks down or you can give away nice clothes you no longer wear.
I know what you're thinking. Someone is going to take advantage of you. That's right, some people will try. But you'll lovingly and firmly teach them to stand on their own to develop their characters and find their own way. We're all in need of each others wisdom, so never be afraid to share yours when the moment calls for a strong plan of action or an important insight.
Giving is much simpler than we make it out to be and it always blesses us with new opportunities to share. We just have to stop waiting to "get" and be ready to "give."
If you have no idea where to begin, think about someone you know that let their life slip away without event and give them something special to wake up an empty dream or fulfill an empty promise. It only takes a few words or a simple prayer.
Till next time, Salau O John Poet, Author and publisher
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