There's nothing bad in having a little hate for something but learning to manage that hate is another thing for us all.
How many times have we said to ourselves “I hate this or that” or even “ I hate him/her”, but where does hate get us, does it make us feel any better by declaring we hate something or somebody? Hate is a negative feeling and negative feelings only bring about bad. When we think of the word hate we start to have thoughts of coldness towards others or something, we automatically isolate ourselves from that person or situation and nothing good can come from feelings such as these. There are many types of hate such as racial, sexual, ethnicity or just plain disliking a situation or disliking a situation due to a phobia, here are some ways you can think about turning the hatred into a more positive and good approach.
Racial hate
People are people, we are all flesh and blood whatever the colour of our skin or our background in life, we all have the same color blood flowing through our veins; we have the same shape hearts and brains, we all have fingers, toes and the ability to communicate. Why then do so many people profess to hate someone else just because they have a different color skin or come from a different country? It is worthwhile remembering that underneath we are all basically the same and want the same out of life for ourselves and our families, there are good and bad people of all colors and nationalities in life.
So instead of just hating someone because the look differently to you look deeper inside than the color of the skin and see the true person.
Sexual hate
What difference does a person’s sexual preference make to the person that they are, many people hate others solely based on their sexual preference, but why? For example you could meet someone quite by chance enjoy being in their company, laugh, talk have a great time until you found out that they were gay or lesbian.
All of a sudden your feelings alter towards this person yet nothing has substantially changed from a few minutes ago, the person hasn’t changed, they are still the same person you were having fun with whom you liked being with, yet this simple point changes everything. Maybe its just a matter of ethics, how you were brought up, what you were brought up to believe in, but why cant you change your thoughts and feelings, why cant you just allow yourself to continue having fun and enjoying being with that person?
If they were a good person before there admittance of their sexual preference then they still are now.
Hate due to a phobia
People can truly hate certain situations or objects in life due to an excessive phobia, this could be a hate of heights, spiders, snakes, the dentist or being enclosed in elevators. This type of hate is brought about by fear, a deep fear of something or situation that for those affected have hardly any or no control over, however since fear is all about feelings and thoughts, fear and hate of this type can be controlled with the mind with a little help and know how. An analyst can help to turn this type of hate and fear into a more positive outlook and help the person overcome the phobia and turn a fearful situation into a good one.
FIGHT THE FEAR
Do the things you fear
Take a ride with your fear
Aim higher than the sun to become
That you act as dead is gone
Cowards die before death tolls
Get knowledge awareness your tools
Self perseverance breath with fear
Stand doing things without care
Make your fear your tools
Walk in the present be cool
Evils that never happens why worry
Only once is life in a hurry
Plan on that you truly fear
Bring not to friendly care
Close eyes for dead troubles unseen
Face that undone before and glean
Salau O John©2010
CHANGING THE WORLD
It’s all part of a process
A step a day for the future
In discipline all must to recess
And action through practice for cure
Its not just words but ways
To learn and live by some rules
To become a man changing days
Lives are interwoven through tools
Every book read, every way known
To stand and become is a process
No one without discipline is shown
And only few had the world restless
Changing the world is mans control
The process is mission, vision holding
But who understands even their soul?
The paths are laid to be reigning
Salau O John©2010
Wishing you all the best in all,
Salau O John
aka
T1
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