SOMETHING ABOUT MY BOOKS

Hello friends,

Just a quick post here today about what has been keeping busy of late.

I guess I just have to give you a short preview of my latest work, my books, has they have been keeping me out of my weekly writings on this blog for some time now. I know you are all anticipating when you can lay your hands on them in the book stores soon.

Well, I am giving you the privilege of reading a little of 2 of the books before they are out in October 2010 to get at all the leading book shops nation wide in Nigeria.

The book titles are:
1. 101 Ways to Succeed With your Dreams & Talents (Motivational)
2. The Power of Determination (Christian Motivational)
3. Friendship & Courtship (Relationship Motivational)
4. Poetry For You (Teaching Poetry Writers how to write)

Well, a preview of the first book is given, and the second as well bellow:

101 Ways to Succeed With your Dreams & Talents (Motivational)

Chapter One

WHO ARE YOU?

 1. Realize your potential

In order to succeed at anything, you need to see that you have the potential to reach your goals. For example, if you want to be a recording artist but have no singing ability, having success in this field is not likely. However, if you love working on computers and have a real talent for fixing software and doing computer repairs, and to you success means working for Microsoft Company, you have the potential to learn and achieve that success.

2. Don’t Look Back

Everyone has failures or mistakes from the past. To have success, you need to learn from your past and value those difficult lessons but do not dwell on your past. Simply move forward and make better, more educated decisions from the lessons learned.

3. Dare to Dream

To succeed, you need to have dreams and aspirations. Be honest with yourself, know what you want out of life and what you want to give of your life. Allow your mind to dream big and think big.

4. Business Plan

Create a business plan, your very first step if you are planning to build a business. Whether you will be searching for investors or not, this plan will be the blueprint to your success. The business plan will consist of market trends, financial planning, competitive analysis, exit strategies, marketing and promotional options, everything about your goal. When going before an investor, you’ll be required to have a business plan. This is by far the most important document of all. If your success were something personal, you would not need to create a business plan although a project plan would be a good option to allow you to keep track of everything involving your goal.

5. Don’t Give Up

To reach success, you have to persevere. Even Thomas Edison had to learn this. When he was creating the incandescent light bulb, it took him more than 10, 000 times to get it right. Keep striving even when it becomes challenging...

The Power of Determination (Christian Motivational)

Chapter One

GET DETERMINATION

WHY DETERMINATION?

 Every time you find work to do, do it the best you can. In the grave there is no work. There is no thinking, no knowledge and there is no wisdom…. Eccl.9 vs.10

Determination is the process of making a choice toward achieving something in life, and taking the right steps towards it, even when all things stand against making it. It is the ability to be focused on one thing without turning back until its fulfillment; the power of following your God given vision and purpose in life till its end.

To be determined, or to have determination in the real sense of the word, is to know what you want to do, or be in life, daring the odds, setting your priorities straight, following them and doing what it takes until you get the end result.

Determination cannot be overlooked in life, no matter the task, because it is the power to change ordinances, lives, and the future; anything needing change in this world and beyond.

BEING DETERMINED

But Daniel purposed in his heart that he will not defile himself with the portion of the king’s meat, or with the wine which he drank: therefore he requested of the prince of the eunuchs that he might not defile himself. (Daniel: 1 vs.8.

From the above scripture, we read of Daniel, how he was so determined to be different in all things in another mans land through a purposeful heart and what became of him at the end.

We can also read the story of his three friends, (Shedrach, Mechach and Abednego), how they settled everything in their heart; what to do no matter the outcome of all things surrounding them, and the glory that followed after. (Daniel 3 vs. 16 — 28)

DICTIONARY DEFINITION

Determination is taken from the root word ‘deter’ which is to ‘keep from an act by fear, self, punishment, etc’. And from ‘deter’ we come to ‘determine’ which means ‘to be the cause of control of something or ones mind, ambition, or future, etc’.

From determine we have ‘determined’, meaning ‘having an intention firmly fixed in ones mind to be done immediately or later in the future’.

After all these we come to our pot of call which is; ‘Determination’:

Determination is the ability to continue trying what you have decided to do or become, focusing on one thing, even when it seems difficult. It is having a strong mind to do something and allowing no one or anything put a stop to it. It is also the art of doing what is set or settled in the mind or heart of an individual to be done; to do something no matter the odds against it, with immediate effect; not looking or minding roadblocks or working in procrastination.

Biblical definition!

This is the ability to make up ones mind to do the unbelievable through faith, trust in God and His word, based on known and believable or unbelievable facts seen or unseen. It is the acceptance of the word of God as the final authority, in things believed; and walking in it even though it is unacceptable, unbelievable to others because it is Gods authoritative word....

Available in stores now (A pocket motivational book)

Learn something from this:                            Just a Poem

Balance that life

The job will call man to work

And obligation will rant and vent

But time lost is time gone

Yet there’s another time to invent

Balancing the time is truly tightening

But to rest, to play and worship calls

Life was made for a balance in learning

Though many try in failures cage

Man must rest and play to refresh

And give time for worship and work

But few understand this balance

And many in life have waylaid luck

God in six days work and worship

But the seventh he rested to fellowship

Generations are plagued with work ethics

And the children days forgotten to click

Salau O John©2010

Thanks for coming along with me here.

Till next time when I come your way with a tip of the next 2 books, feel free to contact me for any other information you might need (08028607952 or treasured100@yahoo.com).

Wishing you all the best in all out there,

T1

GETTING YOUR LIFE BACK AFTER ALL

Hello there my friend,

Today is another day for a little understanding to one of the issue life brings  our way, the burden of letting go of life, a friend, or just being sick of situations that damping our spirits.

I believe you'll love reading and learning from this as much as I like to blog about it.

We all do know that sometimes life has the habit of kicking us in the teeth, perhaps through no fault of our own. Things get tough and we have periods of sorrow and hurt, this could be the death of a loved one, a breakup of relationships or sickness.

We have two options to dealing with what life throws at us and these are to give up and go into depression or to accept whatever happens in life and then move on with our lives, if we make the right choice then we grieve of course, then pick ourselves up and move on with our life.

Bereavement
Bereavement comes to us all eventually in life, sometimes it comes cruelly and strikes the young while others are taken expectedly when they have lived out their years, whenever bereavement chooses to strike it is just as heartbreaking for those left behind. Grieving will of course vary from person to person and there isn’t any set limit on the amount of time which we should or shouldn’t grieve, there are also many stages to grieving starting with shock, numbness, fear and unsettlement being just a few of the many feelings which can flow through a person during this time. Grieving however is a normal occurrence and an important one if we are to get over this time and eventually move on with or life, it is human natures way of letting go and you shouldn’t
try to hide any feelings or thoughts during this time. Having someone you can turn to such as a family member or friend can help greatly during your greatest time of need and if you are lucky enough to have someone like this then it is essential that you take them up on their offer of being there for you.

IllnessCoping with a severe or life threatening illness can be devastating; it can bring a whole range of emotional problems along with physical disabilities. Finding that we have or someone we love very much has a life threatening or severe illness is devastating and brings feelings of fear, uncertainty and even denial before true acceptance. Denial to a degree is not necessarily a bad thing, if denial is used in a positive way, it can help to overcome problems to some degree and enable you to get back to living your life. However total denial and  not accepting at all is something entirely different and if this is the case then you might need to seek help.

Break up of relationshipsThe break up of any relationship can be traumatic particularly if you have been together for many years and/or there are children involved in the relationship. Again fear plays a big part, fear of what the future will bring, how you will cope, feelings of betrayal and desertion all play an important role.

Time usually plays a crucial factor in healing after a breakup and grieving to an extent over what is essentially a loss helps to get your thoughts and feelings out and enables you to move on with your life and take the next step forward into a new chapter.

TIME

The first time is never easy

It was meant for your going up

Aspiring high the second time

Shows you’ve learnt a lesson

For the tough gets tougher

And life is more joyful with

Its ups and down

Get acquainted with your problems

The facts of life are easily diluted

If only you’ll accept them as they come

Facing them and winning

The first has come and gone

Now the second is here

Do it better and be tough

Salau O John©2010

LET GO

Like a cage

You lock up your heart

So afraid

You never want to fall apart

You’ve got to let go

You’ve got to let go

So many times

Will you be fine?

It stays in your heart

The fear of the past love

You’ve had

You’ve got to let go

You’ve got to let go

Salau O John©2010

Thanks for learning with me.

To your help,

Salau O John (Olanrewaju)

aka

T1

http://www.towerofpower.com.au/getting-over-a-relationship-break-up

http://www.ehow.com/how_2311321_move-after-break-up.html

Steps To Your Procrastination

Hello friend,

Really never had it in mind to post these steps today but due to some questions and discussions from/with a friend on the subject I thought it fit to write on the issue bothering solving this problem as many really do face it without knowing or understanding how to get out.

Procrastination is a burden many do not really know they are into because it often starts unconsciously before it becomes a part of a person.

So are you a victim of laziness, a root cause of procrastination? Do you often suffer because of what you initially considered as easy has turned difficult with the loss of time, and what appeared hard, due to further delay, has
become impossible now? You may draw comfort from the fact that you are in the company of many that are affected by procrastination. But you must realize that you will experience true comfort, if you get rid of your laziness by shaking yourself up into action. Like many others, you can indeed stop procrastinating and start meeting deadlines, by following a few simple steps that teach you effective time management.

1. Plan your daily must-do activities. Draw up a to-do list; preferably, write it down on paper; or, use a computer if you prefer.

2. Prioritize the activities, the more important ones taking precedence over the less important. If there are urgent things to do, but not important enough to be worried about if not done, put them below the important ones. The idea is based on the established principle that 80% of rewards accrue from 20% of effort directed towards accomplishing important work.

3. Estimate the time required for each of the listed activities after analyzing their complexity. Avoid underestimation, as you may not have enough time to do well a particular of piece of work. Similarly, avoid overestimation, for that may leave some activities without enough time. A realistic budgeting of time is a must. Time allocation is a skill that is acquired with experience. So keep reviewing and revising your time schedule as you progress.

4. Organize your life. That will help you avoid wasting your precious time and leave more time for the actual work. Remember indiscipline causes confusion, even chaos, in life. It eats into your time. Avoid sloppiness. For instance, leave your personal belongings of daily use, like your glasses, your clothing, your computer etc., in the same place. If you do, you won’t need to spend time looking for them all over the place. Apply the principle of doing work first and then taking time for pleasure and relaxation. Reverse the order only at the pain of falling prey to procrastination. You can get time for rest and relaxation if you are efficient in doing your assigned work.

5. Start working bit by bit. You may see a mountain at first, but mountains can be moved, especially if you begin by moving just a small stone from it. You know you cannot move the entire mountain all at once. Do not be overwhelmed by the immensity of the task before you. That will put you off.

And you will put off the task for another day, which will never come. Just begin by taking one small step and you will invariably reach your destination.

6. Put first things first early in the day. Remember procrastination grows into a habit by the minute. Begin your day by launching yourself head first into the most important job waiting to be done.

7. Learn to cope with anxiety, depression, stress and other similar conditions of the mind related to your problems in life. Keep yourself fit, not just physically but mentally as well. Learn and practice suitable mental relaxation techniques such as meditation.

When to pray

Not tomorrow, not tonight but now

Are you in daily distress, downcast?

God sees your sorrow no how

Are you fretting a future to feature?

The Lord, the word an answer no foul

Are you happiness your hopes gotten?

The prayer, your prayer must tongue

Is your friend, your family yearning stopping?

Your time, God’s time must song

The time to pray lies no turning time

For God a spirit you to His due

And prayer is rain to future dues line

So you must might your all to do

The enemy enlists your other line

With prayers you prow termination on

A book hooked of God to remember thine

The more, the store place them long

Salau O John©2010

Cool down

Like the storm in a raging sea

Your future has been tolled, toiled and tailed

You feel and fear parts that’s free

I call you to cool down!

Like a man in a jungle you stumble

And the darkness dolls you ailing

You feel there’s no way to bubble

I call you to cool down!

As in the battle of the Titans

Your friends, families you can’t see

You feel like you’re alone in the lighten

I call you to cool down!

Like Daniel in the lion’s den

All the earth frets against thee

Know thou God knows with a plan

I call you to cool down!

Salau O John©2010

To your success in all,

Salau O John (Olanrewaju)
aka
T1

Procrastination: Why You Do It, What to Do About It Now

The Procrastination Workbook: Your Personalized Program for Breaking Free from the Patterns That Hold You Back

The Complete Idiot's Guide to Overcoming Procrastination

Control that addiction

Another day another time out here, just wanted to help you out in the issues concerned with our addiction and getting out of the ruts we get into sometimes with eyes open, other times just by trying things out and never being able to get out again.

I believe there's something here to learn.

First of all, have you even realized you need to break free from your addictions? If not, now is the time to make a conscious decision about regaining control over yourself by really trying to kick your harmful habit NOW.

You can’t wait forever for an opportune moment, because it will never come if you don’t want it. Once you decide to quit, make your decision public. Tell your family, your friends and everybody and anybody interested in your well being about it. By doing so, you are making it rather difficult to back out. You are perhaps also indirectly indicating to all of them that you are seeking their support for your decision. Actually, it is important to openly enlist their help and co-operation to help kick your bad habit.

Avoid getting into situations full of temptations. No matter how strong you are, the temptation will be overwhelming. When you are trying to give up sexual addiction, smoking, for instance, hanging out with your chain smoker friends will do you no good. Don’t accept invitations to party, when you know you will be subjected to peer or situational pressure to take the very things you are trying never to use. If you do, you will never come out of your compulsive weakness for a particular drug, drink or smoke or some habit you have decided to kick.

You may need professional help If you are a long-term slave to alcohol or drugs or tobacco or pornography or any of the several other equally harmful substances or things, you may need professional help in addition to the support from your family and friends. After an in-depth look at your case, specialists will chalk out a program for you to follow under their supervision over a specified period of time. Several support groups may join in. Following the rehabilitation program is key to getting yourself back on track. Ultimately, your own will is the only thing that can get rid of the addiction for good.

People under some stress or tension wrongly believe that they can calm themselves and feel relaxed if they use tobacco or alcohol or drugs. They first try to drown their sorrows in addictive substances and habits injurious to health, but end up drowned in their addictions. If only you realize the futility of seeking relief from your grief in addictions, you will never put yourself under the risk of damaging your health and losing your wealth as well as destroying whatever happiness you have had so far. There are better ways to confront and conquer your problems than giving in to addiction.

Outlets for addiction
Learn to relax and rebuild your physical and mental reserves by doing regular physical exercise, meditation or taking to hobbies by exploiting your creative interests. Instead of attempting to escape from reality through the door that addictions seem to open for you, learn to adopt a positive attitude and face the inevitable and overcome the consequences with courage.

YOU are in control
Remember there are few quick-fix solutions to life’s problems. Likewise, there are no easy ways to overcome your addictions. Only concerted efforts on your part will help you in the end. Take control of yourself by training your mind to face life’s tough challenges.

Heart troubles

The past calls us back in

Though atonement we’ve alight

We cry and fry the pains seen

And wish another way this light

Why wail a forgiving past

Though this punishment we must buy

A little line and time to last

For God, so bold, our ways sigh

It’s a matter of time to pine

For a lesson learned, a future gotten

Blame thou not God, your sign

You were forever let go but burdened

Your troubles for the time, your lessons

Only adjust in aligning order bent

For greatness, success, your troubles are blessings

But only God thou to hold none relent

Salau O John©2010

   

HARD TO COMPREHEND

The issues of the human minds

The throes of life in thinking

The thoughts propelled by different kinds

How on earth can man comprehend?

The thoughts of business and relationships

The bugs of heartbreaks and poverty

The back-turned human burning lordship

Who can comprehend these burning tides?

As the journey goes on differently here

The pangs of different connotations bout

Faces differ, only the best must care

Life only in sphere does exist

Our thoughts probes us daily

What we know is half boiled

Only learning keeps us here daily

As understanding birth peaceful progress

Salau O John©2010

 Have a lovely time out there, 

Salau O John

aka

T1

Is this happiness?

Today I would like to examine something critical to all of us, "happiness".

I do know we all do go through this burden, searching for a meaning to living happy and feeling good in life and love.

The fact of living and having happiness in life calls on all and becoming happy is something everyone wants and will cherish having.

Do you feel there is something missing from your life? That perhaps the world is against you or that other people seem to smile, laugh and be a lot more happy and contented in life than you are? Have you ever stopped to wonder why this might be? Moreover, what you can do about it? Have you even considered what happiness actually is?

Happiness and contentment in life differs for all of us, what makes one person happy doesn’t necessarily bring contentment to another. Very often we are happy in life but we just don’t realize it. Very often the hustle and bustle of life can completely overtake all else and leaves us little time to enjoy the things that make us smile and enjoy life to the fullest. If you stop and sit down and think about what actually makes you happy and feel contented, you might actually find you have those things already around you but you just didn’t realize it.

However there are times when we can get into a slump and haven’t yet come across the conditions that we regard as bringing happiness and contentment. If this is the case then you have to figure out what changes you need to make, to bring happiness into your life, in most cases it is the smallest of things which bring happiness and you have the power to gain them by working towards them.

Your happiness and contentment depends entirely on you, no one else can give it you, it is something inside you that you have to find and work towards.

You can either decide to stop in the rut or to take positive action and make changes to your life or yourself in order to accomplish contentment. In order to understand what happiness means to you, the first step you
should take is looking at your emotions, ask yourself questions such as “if I could be enjoying something in my life, what would it be?” and “what makes me feel contented in my life right now?” Once you understand what your vision of happiness and contentment is you can build on what you have now or focus on changing your life to what you would like it to be.

The important thing to remember is to examine your feelings by way of the answers you give to your questions, examine them honestly and concentrate on the good or bad feelings that you get from your questions and answers.

There is no magic spell or potion that can bring you contentment and happiness, it is something that is already right there inside of you, you just have to realize what it is and develop and bring it out to start enjoying life.
Happiness can be found in family life, work, relationships, nature or a pet, to name just a few, in fact it can be found in anything and any situation if you just know where to look and look in the right direction, the inner you.

All men cry

Men do mean cry

Have you ever seen love line?

When loneliness atone the try

And love lights no line

All men do mean idle cry

When love is so far and all done is try

Yet all doors closed and friendship fry

It is the dillydallying of all men.

Men and their mean boldness

Showing not the cloudiness but soundness

It is that plan-mapped of youth

Yet all men do wail idle cry in truth

See the steps gaily sought

Women taught gentle vessels

Yet in love and loneliness men are tough

But in creek secret, men fry in cells

Salau O John©2010

Malice

There is fear in malice

If you believe me not

Try to keep it and see

It breaks friendship and fries it hurt

I saw you and I say not hi

And I walked in my bemoan heart

Noting not the future that ply

But bullying a better future for start

I say you smell and I hiss

Yet within me your past smiles I miss

I know love stands our remedy

But what ails your heart indeed

Let’ walk together laying them eggs

With alone to lay our togetherness

For lives are mapped in fun-friendship

And malice does mar the only truthfulness

Salau O John©

 

Music

Like the balm of Gilead

It sooths and comforts me

And the sound breaks the boundaries to lead

It lies in setting the heart free

For millions of hearts a burden atoned

And from ages untold the words did fall

For in these our hiss in the world burned

And pray for only God the song to call

From above came the fire of tongues

But on earth a change of tone

Yet our hearts hails in heavenly songs

For that we hope a song to swing

Music

A thing for hearts projection

Men and women forever to click the critique

And God with angels connotation for consolation

Salau O John©2010

Thanks for reading my blog,

Salau O John (O.O.J)

T1

Beating the Bad Day Blues

Hi friend,

Just a quick one this week to help you out with the days when things feels like you need to give up an d let go of living the life you were created for, to enjoy and be the best of all.

I sure do hope you'll find something out here to help you become happier than the problems of life and living.

Whenever you have a bad day for whatever reason, what you need to do is think. Think hard, but not about the misery or the misfortune that has hit you.

You may be of the opinion, of course, the unfortunate events or experiences of the day are going to haunt you, put you under depression and mental stress, drain your emotions of their usual energy, kill your enthusiasm for life and spoil everything that you hold dear in life. In short, your negative thoughts may make your bad day seem worse than it actually is. Undoubtedly, that will be the case if you surrender yourself to the consequences, not otherwise. If you take control, you can devise ways and means of beating the bad day
blues.

Since negative thoughts and emotions tend to overwhelm you on a bad day, you must think of strategies that thwart them. Turn to vigorous physical work out. Or, take a long walk or go swimming. Or, just get out into the open and sit somewhere and observe the plants and trees and flowers or the sunset, if it is sunset time. Read a pleasurable book, watch a funny movie or do something that distances you from the bad day situation, preferably both physically and, more importantly, mentally.

The good times past
Remember the good ol’ days that enriched your life in the past, all the happy experiences that elevated your spirits and all those special friends and relatives who brought cheer and laughter into your life. Think of the good things of your life and be grateful for the blessings bestowed on you. Put against the bright light of your appreciation of all those better days, this single bad day or a small bunch of bad days will pale into insignificance.

Do not wallow in your bad moods and emotions because that is a sure way of plunging deeper into sorrow. A bad day will not become a good day by stewing over it. Remember that a bad day is just one passing day. It might have left a few scars on your mind and body but is important to remember that the pain is temporary. Time is a great healer. Today, just ignore the negative aspects of the day. Instead, look at the positive side of the bad event or happening that spoiled your day. Are there any lessons in it for your future?

How can you avoid getting into the same or similar situation?
This does not mean that you start thinking about your purpose in life, your personal relationships, your career graph or your future on a bad day. The day is not suitable for taking any major decisions about your future life, because such decisions cannot be sound, given the dark background. Put off taking important decisions till a better day when you regain your mental poise and composure.

One simple formula that will help you on your bad day lies in the fact that your sorrows get divided and your pleasures get multiplied when you share them with your close friends or confidantes. You may try to overcome your bad day by discussing your problems with your close friends.

Any or all of these easy-to-adopt measures will be helpful in providing relief to you on a bad day.

CHOOSE TO LOVE

I have been hurt and pained

But we al choose that wanting

I have been beating and slay

But I chose to love again

I have died to my past

Awaken am I to my future

Hurt and pain can’t really last

Our choice makes joy in the fronting

Life will teach o learn lessons

But men will choose that to learn

How often men cry for treason

But the truth is in us all

Our choices changes the minds burden

To love to hate either one recoil

Though we hold power for future frozen

Choose the best to live alive

Salau O John©2010

 

ACTION AND WORDS

They say action speaks loudest

But sometimes that unnoticed speaks

They say seeing is believing

But that unseen too really breaks

Men and their mean idle threats

That said most never portrayed

Like hiding in darkness for cover

That done is never that prayed

In love the heart calls true

In life many things are amiss

We see only that we want seen

After everything we cry amiss

In separation many things helps

In understanding and trust love’s built

Life will always teach its lessons

Men will and may not suite

Salau O John©2010

Thanks for your time.

Feel free to leave your comment here!

To your success,

Salau John

aka

T1