Losing Faith in God

This is something I have had in mind for some time to write about but knowing what question would probe minds reading this blog I have had to wait until now to voice it here.



Most goes through this phases of life and I believe I have been there in time. I just want us all to enjoy and learn together here:

I've lost my faith in God. Why didn't God help me? I really don't believe that he will save me.

Although people may not out rightly say these phrases, very often their dejected words and actions prove evidence that this is what is going on in their minds. Through times of strife they appear to lose all faith in God.

I once heard a story from a friend's father, he had a friend who was extremely successful with  a fantastic career, a loving wife and family and a great circle of friends. His faith in God was strong; or so he thought.

One day this friend had a major disagreement with his bosses at work and ended up quitting his job. About the same time some of his friends emigrated to different parts of the world. His mood deepened and as he fell into depression his wife struggled to cope with the situation and finally left him.

I thought of the troubled questions that must have gone through his mind.

What's happening to me? Why does God give me all these troubles? Shouldn't God have mercy? Maybe there is no God?

Now at rock bottom, he firmly believed that his faith in God was lost. He stopped thinking about faith and just tried to live his life as best as he could.

A few years later, he found another job and made great progress, re-establishing a career. Some of those friends that had travelled abroad returned home, preferring the British way of life. He re-built a good relationship with another women and life became as wonderful as he had previous known. As the good life returned, so did my friends faith in God. He believed that his faith had been restored.

The truth is that his faith in God hadn't been restored because he had never lost it. In fact he had never had a faith in God, just a faith in his life's conditions.

Why did he lose his faith?

When life was good and full of happiness he trusted in this life style. Psychologically he believed it would last forever. In the stock market world, when the price of a stock goes up, investors believe the price will go up forever in complete ignorance of what economics are actually telling them. The price of that stock becomes exaggerated. Reality then sets in when the price of the stock starts to fall. It is then assumed that the price will continue to fall forever and that stock is sold cheaply. Here we can label the economy as being "faith in God" whilst the direction of the stock price can be called "faith in a lifestyle".

My friend, when life turned bad asked the question ... Where is God?

His faith was never in God but in his work, his family and his friends. When he lost them, he lost his faith.

When we are at our lowest ebb, this is when God is truly by our side. For those of us who absolutely believe in God, this is when our faith is strongest. We do not have a "fair weather" faith in God. Inevitably we find a path through our troubles and strife thus proving God will always be there for us. This is absolute faith which provides such hope, inspiration and optimism for us all.

How fantastic is that?

Salau O John
Poet, Singer, Author,
Business Manager & Speaker

GETTING A LIFE

I have waited for the judge

Pleading not guilty of running love

I have my question truly lodge

Yet my time beckons on coping

To work to play and become

Get a life for age beckons

All to work and making it fit

But life harden the laden feet

Something must hold to something

Life is for work and standing

The labor of men for another living

Like a grass a man must sober

Getting a life is that matters

We are made of God to work

But the vision only His banner

Men must work not in luck

Salau O John©

THE REAL VISION

So many times for money we falter

Thinking others road ours made

So many times we follow our talents

Thinking that’s the road to aids

The vision of God man must catch

In circle the life goes without one

Our hearts make ways for us unleash

We are made of that we see

Our patterned vision robs our time

To focus on one made the earth

How many can in God truly prime?

We are created of vision to ensure

Only one vision makes for purpose

Knowing, finding out makes meaning

Wasted years and time fakes propose

Only Gods real vision connects you

Salau O John©

Stressed ..... Say NO!

Have you ever been asked to do something or go somewhere or 'do a favor' and have wanted to say 'no' but said 'yes' instead? Then you'd be in good company! This simple, two-letter word is one of the hardest words to say!

Sometimes we say 'yes' as an automatic response, without actually thinking through the request and what it may entail. This is especially true if the request has been made by our employer, boss or supervisor. It is just as true if the president of our volunteer group asks. And who can resist a family member?

Most of the time we say 'yes' because we don't want to be seen as selfish or mean. And then we find ourselves over-committed, overburdened, and stressed to the max. Think about it for a moment or two. Is this you? Have you said 'yes' so often at work that you don't know how you're going to you're your own work done?

Have you agreed to a family member's plans even though they coincide with those you have already made for yourself? And will you, as a consequence, miss out on your own plans? And if that is the case, what are you going to do about it?

Fear of rejection and guilt often underline our desire to please, so by saying 'yes' we take the path of least resistance. We say 'yes' because we want to feel useful. We say 'yes' because we want to avoid a confrontation. And then we feel resentful. If you think about it, if we are doing something for someone else (whether we truly want to do it or not), we have to give something up – for instance, time.

Perhaps you are one of those people whose normal way of dealing with requests is to say 'yes'. Why do you do it? Is it for one of the reasons stated above? Do you feel stressed or resentful because of them?

Perhaps we could all adopt Katherine Hepburn's approach: always say 'no' unless you can find a reason to say 'yes'! No, it's not my approach – but here's the way I cope.

When I am asked to do … to go … to help … to anything at all, I think about it for a couple of seconds. If the request conflicts with something I already have planned, I say, "Sorry, no can do, I have a prior commitment" – and I never tell the other person why. Partly because it's none of their business, and partly because I don't feel a need to justify my actions.

If I really, really, really don't want to do what's asked of me, I say something like, "Look, I'm not sure at this stage, let me get back to you." Believe it or not, while I am deciding, the person invariably goes off and asks someone else so I don't actually have to say, 'no'!

The truth is, I'm very comfortable in saying 'no', but I understand that not everyone has my confidence. So … Before you accept a request – no matter who makes it of you – stop and think about it. That way, you will be coming from a position of strength, and are more aware of what is required of you or what you have to give up.

Make it a habit.

DON'T SAY 'YES' UNTIL YOU'VE THOUGHT IT OVER.

It's a strategy that will stop you from becoming overloaded at work, or being taken advantage of by friends and family.

"A 'no' uttered from deepest conviction is better and greater than a 'yes' merely uttered to please, or what is worse, to avoid trouble."

Truth but

On and off is the life of men

Spoken or not it should have been

For the name and fame none to send

Yet in life on the face, it is seen

The fear of saying the word

Truth lurks in the hearts cage

Standing with only the fear of God

Friends, families, enemies rage

The hurt and fighting of the heart

The isolation of falling apart

Where are they?

What can we say?

Words are meant to be spoken

But in life the heart is broken

Salau O John©

burden

The trees blown by the breeze

The birds flown showering kisses

The smiles without and

The pain within

The female bud shown

And the flowers blossom

Time to tell the truth

Different face for

Different occasion

It’s un-farfetched

Yet we mar-etched

And pray for salvation

Asking for a but in no buts

The lie, being shy or the truth

Who’s got the guts?

Salau O John©

LESSONS FROM THE PAST(MARRIAGE WAS SEEN)

Wishing you a lovely time out there,

Just felt a little bit in line to look at my past in love and life for a while here and paste some of the lessons I've learned for you to glean some facts from. Hoping and believing you'll find something for yourself in it.

Well it's a known fact that this blog was set up to help you in life, relationship business and creative writings, to motivate you to be the best of what you want to be in life and all.

So gather your wings with me and let's fly together on this journey of love and the realities of life and understanding.

Enjoy!

MARRIAGE WAS SEEN

Together we had made the smiles, conquered the trials in prayers, walk the line of battles in love, planning, paving a one hearted future, but in process closeness derailed and call us to note – all that glitters is not gold in life, many do not understand; for babies cannot be adults in a day, there must be a crawling first and so is love; priorities calls all to order, mending walls can walk, practice for their opportunities. We all are asking God for something, preparation is not built in a day.

Many are not matured enough for what they are really seeking after; character, no humbleness; although the talk goes on and on. We are all the same in line, trying to become without the real fruits.

What is love? Is it something we say, enter into or an act of understanding that must be planned for before its entering?

From different background, culture, ethnicity, lifestyle and understanding; it is not easy but we must understand that whatever we can’t plan for we can’t enter into. Putting your life in your job and praying for marriage cannot work; consideration must be vested in that longed for.

Relationship to marriage is for adults not kids, but how many have grown to accommodate the other side?

God is good, faithful, true and will not give you what you can’t handle but He allows for a test if you disturb Him too much. How can men understand these things, mysteries lies in life but researching to preparation makes things become what we are really looking for.

Today again the goodbye is said as friendship blossoms, you have gone through the test of life-in-love and you are now running for another; they say, “the devil you know is better than the unknown,” yet I say the devil you need not know at all, for God is perfect in all things, making you to see small and big lights, so that you may know that has faces differ so are people too.

Thus I pray God the best for you in life as the bow is taken towards you, following the paths laid of God for me, promising to always remember you, though I might not see you again.

We were friends till things clouded in, fear, distrust, misunderstanding, talkativeness and no time to communicate aright makes all these become worse.

There are lies on the throne everywhere even the Bible says “none is righteous” but God, we are all attaining perfection with Gods help, there are many things to understand about life; I pray all you know will become that you practice to change your destiny.

I love you but God loves you more!

The future is secured!

I CRAWL

My steps and days solely taken

With plans I tread on the road

But in crawling to grow I’m falling

Asking who lift my hands to help?

I am I no one the same

The steps I take I probe

Born to help minds not claimed

I live isolated with my talents

Like a monk I dwell quietly

I gave my days to true knowledge

Looking around life to cope faithfully

I am I no one to bother

A step a day my role

The acts display nothing dismay

I am made the world to roll

But I crawl for today holds

Salau O John©

 

CARED TO LOVE

Giving the time to love alive

We fail to see the hands

Many only hands seek to live

But in the pocket we hold

The caring of love calls all

But true love is in camouflage

How many will uphold this call?

Hearts are dying deception is enthroned

The care of love is the friendship

But hands are glued in gluttony

We are male and female in courtship

But soon growth will call all

All men companionship seeks alive

It’s better to have loved and lost

We are mates of destiny briefed

Love is the race of all flowers

Salau O John©

COURTSHIP & FRIENDSHIP (FOR THE FUTURE CHILD)

I hope this helps you out my friend for my mind probes me as I consider the facts; life has been in the hood of friendship to make one heart equal; sailing through the canals of love and relationship, grateful for the lessons procured in the process.


The joys of finding the one, the bells that rang in hearing the dotted steps, how many have failed to confide in their hearty identity?

We sail the road calling friendship “courtship”, paving a way for a hand-in-hand to the future, while the heart is in debt of worries, hoping and praying for freedom, thinking of enduring or enjoying, folding hands to see changes but nothing is still displayed to those coming after. We believe we know it all but few are truly chosen and many are called. The question is how many takes their calling and are action oriented? We seek perfection but we are afraid of the tests to greatness. We suffer a little, run away and leave the stage for someone else to enjoy because the time of perfection unknown was undisclosed and closed.

Perfection as come the stage is prepared, but the workers are missing, somebody else did the work but another ate the fruits. It’s our entire fault, our impatience, our ingratitude, our nonchalant attitude towards discipline.

We seek the perfect person but forget that somebody else did the work, as in, diamonds must be refined first by fire.

Courtship is friendship, good before marriage, for we can say goodbye to friends not married partners. It’s all good saying goodbyes to friends than to a lover as the vows, the joining holds forever as it is better to have loved and lost than never to have loved at all; as the memories are sweet but the dreams have not come true. Though just having loved is not worth it at all.

Do you know that person truly in prime? It is more important than that future you hold. Do you have the time, cash to spear one another? You will be called upon in time, for relationship is a financial burden, and only few understands’ these things.

I wrote this for your understanding, I have been in falling, failing, rising, and calling; love bade me goodbye and I waited not in words but to watch and note my prime in vision and purpose.

Learn that you must, be hardworking, patience, self controlled, a go-getter, reader, listener and a financial planner, for love will blind the eyes without practice before time.

I call to understand no gossip; for troubles - enter the closet for communication in dialogue resolved and note from whom you are advised.

God is faithful and on the throne, fail him not at all for thou would give at the end, all proceeds.

GETTING A LIFE

I have waited for the judge

Pleading not guilty of running love

I have my question truly lodge

Yet my time beckons on coping

To work to play and become

Get a life for age beckons

All to work and making it fit

But life harden the laden feet

Something must hold to something

Life is for work and standing

The labor of men for another living

Like a grass a man must sober

Getting a life is that matters

We are made of God to work

But the vision only His banner

Men must work not in luck

Salau O John©2010

ESSENCE OF LIFE

Work to live or live to work

Home to love or outside to love

Life to be there or in luck

All must hold a degree to evolve

To work and to love must

Even animals understand mating

To care and to trust must

Life is a process of meetings

Success or failure man builds alive

Love breaks all barriers built on

Living is without life’s strives

All are called upon to be on

To love, care and comfort others

Living is fun while it’s true

To share, bear and be a banner

Life is cool when all’s through

Salau O John©2010

Goal Setting - What You Need To Know

Goal setting is something that we have been taught since we were young. From grade school all the way through adult life accomplishing our goals is something we strive for. The problem is many times we do not get the job done. It's not because of lack of effort. Many times it's usually the approach we take towards getting what we want. We have some tips to help you reach your desires and define what you want better.


1. Write your goals down. It seems a lot of us will try to just remember what we need to get done and that is great. The truth is when you see it written down you tend to put more value on it. Carry around your written ideas and look at them often so you will never forget them. This will keep you striving to reach them.

2. Make your goals specific. One of the biggest mistakes people make is making them too vague. It is much easier to reach something when you know exactly what you want or must do. Vague suggestions or desires just give you a chance for failure. Be as specific as you can for greater success.

Remember the quote "keep it simple stupid". Well this same quote also applies to goals. Most people make things more complex than they really have to. Keeping things as simple as possible means success will be a lot easier to obtain. Never make things tougher then you have to. Simple always seem to work best and that goes with goals as well.

Having friends and family as a support system around you is a very good idea. Tell them what you want to get done. They can help push you and encourage you. In the beginning this might not seem like a lot, but it will help you out. Sometimes people need a little extra push.

5. Your goals need to make sense as well. Do not make something that is not reasonable. Your goals and desires are reachable, but if you are starting out make it rational. Going overboard will just make it tougher for you to reach your outcome. Know what you're capable of, and do not try to do more than you can.

Goal setting is something that we all need to do sometime in our lives. Many of us will set short term and long term goals. No matter what type you set it is good idea to always go over them now and then. It will help you see how well you are progressing and what changes you may need to make.

KNOW YOURSELF

People tell you their thinking mind

For you perceive no self esteem

You change to suite all in kind

But you alone determine that you are

God made all but differently unique

Your perception to cope Gods hope

For you are somebody, one to frolique

Though many things you are not shows

Note the spiritual, the physical changes

For a child is at end a father

An over-comer to change all things strange

But you to note step by step

You are that of God inclined

Though not all sees that note

You are that of time yearned refined

Yet in scriptural understanding birthed

Salau O John©

Ways to Move Right On

Every day is a new day.
Every morning when you wake up is a new beginning. Forget yesterday's trials and tribulations and just sit a while and mentally plan the day ahead. What could prove challenging? How can you plan ahead to deal with it? Perhaps a packed lunch prepared now could avert a foray into the staffroom biscuit barrel later onor an array of what to do list? Think, plan, do. We all screw up at times – whether it concerns our business, our relationships or our health. It happens. The only people with no problems at all in life are six feet under.

Yell a mental 'stop!'
Slow down, forgive yourself and move on. You're learning a whole new way of living after years of fretting over life's issues. To expect perfection is unrealistic – and you know it even though you can't abide it when you falter. Sometimes there seem to be so many obstacles and temptations that it's just so dam hard and you question if it's all going to be worth it. Maybe making a meaning in life is not all its cracked up to be. Believe me, it is. Regroup, regroup. YOU CAN DO THIS. The binge is over and now we dust ourselves down and start over.

See this as a journey, not a 'marraton'
Just take life one step at a time and do what you must to make a meaning in your cause of action in it. The process of understanding what you want and planning for it is in your hands and none other can help you get there without your permision. no one holds the permission for you to be a success in life. You can dwell on your past misfortuns or use it to accellerate yourself to a better position in the long run.

Remember we decided that obstacles are inevitable? A binge is an obstacle and obstacles are surmountable.

Whenever I hear the word 'obstacle' I think immediately of that SuperMario game when the little guy is racing along in a car at dizzying speed as mountains loom whilst large rocks and showers of bouncing boulders continually try to thwart his efforts. What does he do? Well, he doesn't stop. He goes over, around, under and every which way to get past these temporary blocks. I'll let you think about that.

Keep your eyes on the prize
The only way to stay on track is to want it so badly that you will do whatever it takes to succeed. Why do you want this? Yes you want to be free but why exactly? To live to see your grandkids laugh, able to provide all your family needs? To make a meaning for others in life? Only you know. Stay intensely focused on what you want, never give up on reaching for it REGARDLESS OF WHAT GETS IN YOUR WAY and your success is guaranteed.

WHY WORRY

Why fret your worry line?

The words are true in hearts tie

Is it the distance out of sight unkind?

But the words do ply on high

Fret not your heart and mind

The situation stands coined of God

And words lay your ways and time

It’s far, but heeds thou the word

Here lies the promise of love

Two hearts joined in words non bluff

Though out of sight sounds a fight

Yet are the promise made in plight

The woman and the man a worried heart

But trust, understanding from the world apart

And the words from two did set them alert

It’s time for the no worry say

Salau O John©