Just to help you out after a discussion I had with a colleague of mine on jealousy, a problem many do face in their relationships and living for the reality of happiness.
I lay this lines on this blog to show you a way out and give that helping hand I had earlier promised you for reading this blog.
The aim here is to help you out and give a way you can be happy being yourself and living to fulfill your vision and purpose on earth.
Jealousy is an emotion that can have devastating consequences to a relationship. Jealousy is a negative emotion that many of us suffer from to some extent; it is a feeling of emotions such as anger, hurt, dependency and self-doubt. Self-doubt stems from a fear of losing something, when in fact we ourselves often make this reality by our behavior and actions through jealousy. So how do we take steps to dealing with the green-eyed monster when it rears its ugly head?
�� Become independent – you should only truly rely on yourself and never develop dependency on one person, focus on developing self-independence and on what you have in life, not what you don’t have.
�� Give yourself a confidence boost – treat yourself to a new hair-do, a day at the spa or a new outfit, do something to give yourself a boost in confidence. If your confidence is very low then attend a course on how
to assert yourself.
�� List what makes you feel jealous – sit down and admit to yourself what makes you feel jealous, list them down and be open in your thinking, are they silly things that make you jealous? And do they really matter?
�� Talk your fears over with the person – sit down and talk with the person who is causing you to feel jealous and let them know how you feel. Are they doing something intentionally to make you jealous? Or without
realizing it? If the person truly cares for you then they are usually more than willing to make changes, especially if they didn’t realize they were causing you to worry and feel this way.
�� Take a good and honest evaluation of yourself – being honest about yourself and admitting you might have problems with low self-esteem or self-worth can be an eye opener and is the first steps to changing
your feelings.
�� Study the person you are jealous about – look at the person openly and honestly, figure out what you dislike about the person and what do you like if anything, about them? Ask yourself if you are being
unrealistic in your thinking.
�� Don’t magnify your feelings – unless the jealousy is severe or it has been with you for a long time then chances are it is only fleeting and can have occurred for many reasons, with any luck these feelings will
pass over and your relationship will calm down. Until this happens try to keep your feelings under control and don’t let them spiral.
There are many self-help methods that can be used to help those who suffer from severe jealousy, these vary from seminar/training courses, audio CDS, books and magazines, any technique which can be used to help relax and calm you down can also be helpful, particularly at those times when jealousy first strikes.
To your success,
LET IT GO
Test the waters, test the roads
Let it go, leave it alone
That which belongs will hold
That which is not will be blown
Love is love if it stays
Though the heart may linger staying
Life must go on nothing swayed
Even when in heart life is praying
Let it move throw it away
Many days will roll but wait
Let men hurt you, be slayed
Many will party end your bait
Years will come to yours alive
Casting bread on the waters pay
Losing is gaining better in brief
Let go let God, nothing dismay
Salau O John©2010
WHAT’S THIS?
The mystery began online in parts
A mystery many had talked of
Friendship beckons on the tired road
But for another, pants took off
What’s love what’s being alive?
For fear we tail the self road
I have somebody but not planted
It’s all a mystery that is gored
The line had been drawn epistolary
But poised stands the outer cover
Making a parade in mistaken identity
We made the town called to lovers
Can we truly be but truthful?
Hearts are begging waylaying the parts
The saying beckons for one and only
Let’s give that alert to hearts!
Salau O John©2010
Salau O John (O.O.J)
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