Is Happiness Really Just A State Of Mind?

Emphatically we each have the power to claim happiness and joy no matter what our circumstances. In fact much of what we suffer is caused by our not allowing ourselves to be happy for whatever reasons we choose.

Allowing ourselves to Feel angry and bitter will actually cut off our channel of blessings because it leads to selfishness, thereby keeping us distant from those we love and people in general, causing us even more distress.

If you'd like to experience happiness, it's relatively easy. It begins with caring more about what others are feeling than what you feel. If you want to be happy, unselfishness will give you a new lease on life and it will open the door to great blessings, especially when you express your love and friendship to others instead of anger or frustration.

Let's examine what else you can do.

Being grateful for even the little things in life will open up a new realm of enjoyment. Suddenly you'll see wonderful things about your life you didn't notice before and you'll begin to view the world in a different way.

Instead of expecting everyone to make you happy, you'll be looking for ways to give and share what you have. You'll be thanking God everyday just for being alive. If you're ill, there is no medicine better than joy and thankfulness as it will give you a peace that can heal the body. Certainly having a better attitude will take away stress and discouragement; two emotions that can cause both sickness and failure.

Another way to keep stress out of your life is to stop listening to bad news. Ninety-ninety percent of the news we hear is depressing. Worrying about it will not change it one bit! What can make a difference is a positive attitude that can spread to others.

It is also a good thing to have a belief in God. Without faith in God, life can seem pointless and not worth living at times. Trusting in God through prayer brings about hope and faith that we have safety and protection and that He will be with us to accomplish all things. Ultimately we will achieve a peace that goes beyond human reasoning.

Another important factor for happiness is to manage your time. Time is invaluable and too important to waste. Time management can be viewed as a list of rules that involves scheduling, setting goals, planning, creating lists of things to do and prioritizing. These are the core basics of time management that should be understood to develop an efficient personal time management skill. As you ultimately refine this skill to make the most of each of your days, you will realize greater success.

And in the midst of your planning and organizing, don't forget to laugh. Watch a funny movie, tell jokes or just laugh for no reason. But laugh everyday even if you have to force yourself to do it. Eventually it will be natural.

As you put all of this into practice you can throw in fun activities, sports and learning new things. And you can keep in mind what Abraham Lincoln had to say about happiness. He believed that most people are about as happy as they make up their minds to be.

What do you want out of life, happiness or sadness? The choice is yours!

I TEACH TODAY

Somehow we’ve met here today

Tomorrow may not be foretold

But in our today don’t delay

As I tray all I’ve learned

Maybe we were meant to meet

I know not what tomorrow holds

Maybe just for your season unfit

We are friends today but tomorrow

All that I’ve gleaned in facts

To you I sail before time

Tomorrow may be our friendship pact

We see nothing but our today

I’ve only come here to teach

To tray that I’ve only seen

As the highest knowledge none can reach

My gleaned, known, suffered, I give

Salau O John©

It's Never Too Late For The Late Bloomer In You

If you're older and starting to worry that success has passed you by, don't give up! Somewhere in the distant future, your dreams are resting in limbo, waiting to be realized.

But you can't just sit there, waiting and waiting for those dreams to take life. If you do, before you know it the bloom will be gone from the rose and in no time your hope will be gone.

Stop your empty dreaming for that pie in the sky and start dusting off those goals you set aside. Your dreams are never going to create themselves. They're waiting for you to take interest and make them happen.

So what should you do?

You're going to tap into the late bloomer within and throw aside all excuses that you're too old, out of touch, or you've let too much time fly by you. Maybe you're bitter or you feel too insecure to start over, but I can assure you that the older you are, the smarter you get. The older you are, the better you get. And the older you are the more capable you are of making things happen!

Age is your tool to carve the future as you prove the wealth of wisdom your lifetime has achieved. Whatever you do can make a great mark in life that reaches many, especially those new to life trying to find their way. Turning your life around no matter how old your age will cause inspiration and excitement.

Create a hobby, a business or find a way to give and the joy will spread, creating a circumstance of hope for others that might not have been there if it weren't for you. Already you can see how living your dreams can spread like wildflowers in the wind. So why settle for the expected when you can make what you want happen?

Whatever you decide to do is like a well springing forth waters of new life, joy, peace and love. So don't hold yourself back, make a mark in the world with your life by living it no matter how old you are or no matter what you've missed out on in the past.

Today is a new day filled with the spark of life, while the past is dead forever. Nothing you can do will ever bring it back, so use each moment for creating a legacy that will continue after you've left and passed on to the greater life.

How can you be sure I know what I'm talking about? I started out in life as a dull wallflower who later bloomed into the life I was meant to live. I stopped blending in and began standing out, carving my place in the world that belonged only to me. I didn't worry that I was already getting older. I jumped in and began to make my mark.

Suddenly the impact of my work began to make a difference. That's when I began to understand the value of getting older! It's not to be feared, but realized and shared.

LEAVING A LEGACY
Though this we all do pray for
As all must pass their time
Though tomorrow we wish explored
All we are we must in prime

So many things will call us here
But what will be left behind?
The world will call our cares
Though we run and cry out

All that will be will bot be
As only action will call one
Though the heavens made us free
We make that we’re enlisted

Leaving a legacy is true life
As nothing from earth goes with us
Our home calling will soon alight
What will the world tray often?
Salau O John©

Loving Yourself Is Loving Being You

Whenever you envy other people you hurt your self esteem, which after a time, can push you farther from the success you most assuredly deserve. This is because how we value ourselves determines how we handle life and evaluate our circumstances.

At times we let our feelings get hurt because of what we believe to be insensitive comments or actions against us by others, but many timeswe're more cruel to ourselves than anyone else has been toward us.

We need to look beyond the image of ourselves we see in the mirror and look inward to the person who needs to be treated with kindness and understanding, the way we do for our family members and even strangers who we've just met.

Some of us can be harder on ourselves than on anyone else can, so perhaps this is the very reason you find yourself envying others or not realizing the goals that you've set. Those who have achieved the success you desire to have for yourself didn't get where they are because they're smarter and more financially sound than you are. The one quality that all successful people share is the ability to look at their mistakes as stepping stones to their successes. Where others see failure, they instead see the process of elimination working to move them forward to the next step of understanding.

They don't waste time hating themselves or envying others. They don't whine and complain that everything is against them. THEY DON'T HAVE TIME! They're too busy having fun traveling the road of success. And they're too optimistic to look at hard times or a difficult background as a reason for not accomplishing what they desire. Instead, they see them as opportunities to achieve what they want, because they believe they deserve the best. They press forward no matter what and always finish the race.

If you're not achieving all that you desire, try believing in yourself. It's a great success booster and an ideal way to enjoy yourlife. Try it! You'll see what I mean.

One of Whitney Houston's songs says "Learning to love yourself is the greatest love of all." True enough. In order to love others, you must love yourself too. Remember, you cannot give what you don't have. So not only will you have more success in life, you'll have better relationships as well. Success without others to share it with is lonely.

So stop thinking of yourself as a second-rate person. Forget the repetitive thought of "If only I was richer… if only I was thinner" and so on. Accepting your true self is the first step toward success. Everyone must avoid comparing themselves to others by loving who they are and appreciating the differences we all share.

Everyone has insecurities because no one is perfect. There will always be things we desire to change about ourselves, but life doesn't have to be perfect for people to be happy about themselves.

With self esteem we can love ourselves while we make the improvements we can without having to shout to the whole world that we're perfect and the best. We don't need to be better than others to love ourselves, we just need to love being who we are without wanting to be anyone else.

WHAT YOU’VE GOT
Here hails that you’ve got
Yet from here to there the search
But the way your way you fought
And pave way another’s shoe-show

Wished you think yearn things out
Your roles and rays in that you’ve got
And using it a fine joy throughout
But learn only the important suite

What you’ve got is you
But other talents why loot
So many times your work’s undue
Yet the path do must pave un-tooth

A future yours your fight mesmerized
Though in others eyes you are socks
But persistence with patience memorize
For many in luck do find the bucks
Salau O John©

Working Your Job With A Touch Of Heart To Assist Management

Some of us get stuck in jobs that for one reason or another don't measure up to our expectations. There is always the option of changing jobs or careers, but it can take time. So what does one do in the meantime?

Many disgruntled employees take the direction of complaining and gossiping against their co-workers, the management team in place, and company policies. They complain at work and cause a stir, they go home and drown their families in their work issues at the dinner table and they call up their friends to let them know how miserable they are.

If this is a description of the way you deal with a job you're not happy with, there is a way to enjoy what you do while you speed up the process of finding the job or career you believe you deserve. Suppose for a moment that you could change what you don't like, or at least the worst elements on your list of grievances.

Now before you click away from this write-up, please give me a chance.

I might be able to help you turn a rather difficult circumstance into an experience of growth and character development, not to mention a great opportunity for advancement or promotion.

Here's what you can realistically do to make your time with any company you dislike a pleasant if not a profitable experience. You must first take responsibility for enjoying your work experience or for having difficulty with it. Successful people don't look at the problems in life, they look at how they can fix them. So many times management is blamed for the inability of employees who don't look to themselves as the possible source of their misery.

For example, look within yourself for solutions on how to get along with your coworkers. If you can see them as people not too different than yourself, you may see behind the tough facades they've created in order to get through their days. But whatever you do, don't concentrate on their flaws. Look at their assets. For those persons of dubious character, be professional and office friendly in order to maintain your daily work, but keep them at bay on a personal level.

Think of ways to help your fellow employees, if that's a possibility, and learn to smile often, even when you feel like screaming. It will help you remain in control under difficult circumstances and give you the ability to have better concentration.

As you practice letting go of negative feelings in the workplace, you'll find your workload a little easier, more pleasant to accomplish, of greater quality with completion times faster, and you will receive more praise and recognition. However, a job well done at your best level should be sufficient and beyond any of the accolades of your management and co-workers.

Continue this effort on a daily basis and you may find yourself with a promotion or raise. However, one thing is certain. As you put forth your best efforts and stop complaining, you'll find the door for greater opportunity opening wide in areas of interest you may have just developed or to match the talents your current job can't always utilize to the degree of fulfillment you need to complete your dreams.

I encourage you to never voice the negativity that comes to your mind when you get upset at work. Instead, build a strong foundation of positive words to think or voice and you'll develop a lifelong habit of building a successful life rather than tearing it down. Who knows, you might be able to turn your current job into a career.

HARDWORK OR SMARTWORK
Doing that known is smart-work
Doing what you’re told is hard-work
Becoming smart is becoming great
And working hard makes you fret

Smart-work is that needed to grow
But most have walked in hard-work
Which is that your heart flow?
For many are dying without luck

You need search the leaders above
None work too hard but really smart
For knowledge they procure to revolve
And only smartness they tray themselves

Hard-work has been but slavery
For many had thought its leadership
Though no humans like dictatorship
We are made of smartness songs
Salau O John©

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Living Life To Love Life

If you ever feel as if life has lost it's luster and it's just not that much fun anymore, consider the possibility that perhaps you stopped living it some time ago. Do you really want to get to the end of your life and feel as if you missed out on living? No, I didn't think so. I know you've been wanting to have more fun and feel as if life isn't passing you by.

Once we become adults, our lives become a series of events, scheduled into a routine that can leave little time for excitement and fun. But I beg you to consider a walk in the evening, a visit to an old mansion or an friends place on a Sunday afternoon or an escape to a distant shore where you can rise early in the morning just to hear the surf hit the rocks.

Oh, these are just a few ideas, but I promise if you take a little time to think about what would make your life come alive, you could come up with more interesting ideas than these. Perhaps you would like to visit the children's wing at your local hospital and clownaround in costume, blowing up balloons and making sick children laugh.

There's always the Beach to play around, or maybe your local theater is tempting you with a lead acting role.

We weren't put on earth just to survive. Most of us have to work to earn a living, but all the time? We have to live and experience the wind against our faces like we did as children riding our first bike.

We need to feel the softness of sand surrounding our feet while we watch a tiny crab disappear in muddy waters. All the simple pleasures of childhood should still be ours today. There is so much left to experience, to taste, and to learn.

Living life doesn't have to be complicated. You don't have to parachute out of an airplane or dive off the top of a mountain cliff into treacherous waters to feel alive, although you can if you want to. But there are simple ways to experience life, such as walking your dog every evening, dancing with your spouse or your children or listening to your favorite music on top of the highest mountain you can climb or even going to the club or parties with your friends.

Get off your computer and take that cell phone out of your ear. You can create exciting adventures with just a little time stolen from daily pursuits such as watching the same television shows, complaining about nothing important, or overeating because it's become a habit you find difficult to break.

You are the king or queen of your world. Reign over your life with an edict of fun, adventure and excitement. You'll live longer, love better, and you'll be better at everything you do. In short, you'll become more passionate about life with the realization that it's too precious to waste, and too valuable to let slip through your fingers.

Whenever you're asked the proverbial question, "where has time gone?" You'll be able to exclaim that you're too busy having fun to notice.
Love your life enough to live it and you'll never grow old!

Salau O John
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Just Be Yourself And All Will Be Great?

I was told as a child and youth, "just be yourself" whenever I felt nervous about meeting new people, speaking in front of my classmates, or applying for a job I wanted but felt insecure about getting. It was a nice gesture to pacify me, but their attempt at encouragement left me more confused than ready to take on a new challenge.

Those same persons had also generally reinforced in me that I was too quiet, too loud, not engaging enough, too fat, and too poor a communicator to ever succeed in life because at the time I had a stuttering problem. They also complained that I lacked confidence and needed to have more self-esteem. Those comments certainly caused me to spend some time wondering what part of myself I was suppose to utilize when there was so little good to work with for success.

After careful consideration I came to realize that most people don't really know what they're saying when they tell someone to be themselves. The only way it can have meaning and purpose is if the person giving that instruction approves of the person they give it to and believes in them. Telling someone "to be yourself" must be backed with honesty and truth.

So whenever someone tells you to "be yourself" you should only take their advice if you're sure they approve of you and believe you're about to take part in a situation you can handle. Otherwise, they may be giving you poor advice. Especially if you don't intend to use enough wisdom to assess what you're about to do and plan accordingly.

For example, if you're about to make a business proposal to a group of executives for their financial backing and you go before them dressed "as yourself" in casual jeans, a t-shirt and tennis shoes while they're dressed in conservative business suits, being yourself a hundred percent is probably going to work against you. And if they're as conservative as they appear, you had better speak in a professional manner or your contemporary speaking style may turn them off sooner than your casual attire does.

It's important to be ourselves, but in order to be compatible with certain types of people for the best communication to take place; we have to modify our appearances and behaviors somewhat while we present our true inner qualities through our actions and verbal content.

Let's face it; you can only be your best at the moment from what you know. So if your "real self" doesn't get you what you're seeking after, you must use the negative experiences in your life to positively alter and refine your behavior for specific situations.

This is how we develop ourselves and grow. By looking at the phrase, "just be yourself" logically, we should always take final responsibility for our actions and ability to succeed. Don't put that responsibility on someone else or you'll blame them if you fail and you'll never grow.

By "just being ourselves," we won't see any reason for personal development and little reason to go after the dreams we desire because our "real selves" if undeveloped, will keep us from having the courage to reach beyond what we know at the moment to achieve fulfillment.

So the next time someone tells you to "just be yourself' think very carefully if that's really good advice or if you need to make some changes that will not only benefit you, but will help you to make an honest, yet successful presentation of yourself and your plans. Look to yourself in order to be yourself and success will follow.

A PROJECT MUST BE
Have you ever seen the clouds?
When the darkness parades the earth
Have you ever died inside out?
And felt like darkness in vision

You know the road but time
You see the dreams but finance
And you cry why in the prime
Like a child in search of friendship

The actions to take hold you
The things to do boil you
And many days questions probe
But many have tried this blob

The project must come to pass
For all men are purpose born
The light must shine to last
But it’s up to you carrying it
Salau O John©